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Welcome dear twenties, you are exactly where you need to be; it is another day, quite a blue Monday.  Isn’t it? Honestly I don’t know what that means, but let’s get on with the real business.

This is the official site for special twenties like us, where we get our goals set, plan our future and get our moods up like how real twenties do out there.

Before I give you the UBUYU of today I have a question for you. Have you ever been so high such that you get feelings to fire your boss or slap your dad or piss in the military playground?  If you haven’t its fine and if you have that means nothing, I was just messing up with you.

I think we all know WAHENGA; I like these guys a lot, like really a lot. Such stylish grey hair on their heads and so much wisdom in it: isn’t it super cool?

So this weekend I met one, not that much of grey hair on him but wise enough to be one. I told him about my troubles and difficulties from last semester and all that. I also told him about those break ups I had with my girlfriend and troubles with my GPA.  Also about my decisions to leave aside sports and my blogging and put my entire mind to studies. You know the kind of heat here in MED school.

So I got something from him and found worth sharing. He told me “WHEN YOU DRINK TEA, DRINK TEA”, he added “all laws of physics and nature abide to this, if you follow this all your troubles will be put to an end”.MULTITASK2.jpg

I did put some thought to it and I think we don’t have to quit anything to do well in something we think to be of more importance to us. The key is concentration: drink tea, when you drink tea and enjoy your tea. For there will not be any other moment for tea, enjoy the moment. When it is time for prayer-make the most of it, when it is time for class-make sure you seize that time well, and when it is time for sports or club-make sure you entertain your mind and clear your mind, as for happiness heals your mind and restores your mind to its full function mode, like a factory reset for your phone.

So guys tell me in the comment box below what do you think this wise man was trying to tell me and how do you drink your tea.

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  1. Martin

    September 4, 2017 at 4:13 pm

    In everything you do….make sure you do it 100 percent. Simply MAKE THE MOST OF IT.
    With my tea I put a lot of ingredients including chilly and drink it to the latest drop, no matter how it tastes.

    • chally361

      September 23, 2017 at 7:10 pm

      no matter how it tastes..thank you Martin

  2. Fotu

    September 4, 2017 at 4:20 pm

    We just gotta live in the moment

  3. Gerald soso

    September 4, 2017 at 8:09 pm

    Am just in love with your grammer dear one

  4. Albert

    September 4, 2017 at 9:52 pm

    Love the message in it……

    • chally361

      September 23, 2017 at 7:12 pm

      Thank you brother.More to come

  5. Joshua

    September 5, 2017 at 5:14 am


  6. bukbelle

    September 16, 2017 at 6:47 am

    Nice piece of advice written in an entertaining way.

  7. chally361

    September 23, 2017 at 7:14 pm

    Hey Julius,thank you.more wahenga will come…I have to find tht book..i seems to be my type.

  8. chally361

    September 23, 2017 at 7:15 pm

    Thank you Irene. Tc not girl..Chally wrote it .(me).More is to come.Yo welcome dear one.

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You know the saying it takes twenty years to build a reputation and five minutes to destroy it, the sad truth about this is it is TRUE.
What if I told you am a doctor well-loved by my patients, have saved lives several times. The first image you will have of me is a well-rounded and respectable man. Well that was me a few years ago. I was the man. I did everything right, straight As, focused, well-mannered. Everyone who knew me wanted to carry me around like a trophy. Currently, I am a recovering alcoholic, I have practically no friends, colleagues barely answer my calls, but it wasn’t always like that, a decade ago.

alcohol addiction in my twenties
One of the most important lessons you will learn in your twenties is we all have our demons. Some it’s an ex who wronged us, others its sex, mine well was alcohol and an ex of course. For most of us, our proper relationships begin at our late teenage years and twenties.

broken relationship depression

I met a lady a few years back and unlike the fairy tales,It did not last. Alcohol was my demon and I turned to it as a coping mechanism. I drank so much when my relationship crumbled, I lost a lot of friends and let family members down.
In one year my reputation changed from a hardworking guy to an alcoholic failure. The thing is bad reputations stick more than good ones, I haven’t touched a drink in more than two years, but I still get labeled as such.

Am turned 30 this year, I feel like my twenties have flown by so fast and, yet I have changed and grown a lot. I have had my share of bad days, weeks and months and am I yet to have more. I am aware that I need to develop my coping skills and speak or deal with what bothers me instead of finding unhealthy and destructive coping mechanisms.

So, here’s my take from it all.
Mistakes are a significant part of our twenties and a better off made NOW. There are less people that might be affected by you deciding to use all your money betting on Croatia for a good number of us.

In your twenties learn to reach out to a falling friend. So many times, we see friends failing and we never say a word. Speaking to our circle of support in times of highs and obviously takes a big load of our minds and theirs too.

friendship in alcohol addiction
Success might take twenty years to achieve, don’t feel outdone. Social media is like a highlight reel of or lives. We are not seeing a great deal of the backstage to which we compare ours with.

Another thing is your reputation will NEVER recover, but its alright. People will give you a second chance, they will support you, but will remind you of your faults,  Accept your faults learn what happened has happened.

So, what should you do? Simple, wear your flaws and do not be ashamed of your struggles. Do not try to convince people your flaws aren’t a part of you. Life gets easier when you are open, it might seem tough, but you will cope.

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If you are one amazing twenti who seeks out opportunities to learn or seek support for something you do , at some point you have to prove your worthiness of what you are applying or contesting for.


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how to know your type love

What kind of a patner do you want?

We often respond to this question by saying,

kind, self motivated , good looking , supportive and more.

When we however meet such people , we may not want them for us.

Sometimes you come to learn this so much later in a relationship.

how to know your type math maker

This is because the things we mention are usually whats not whos.

They are what the patner is . Not who the patner is.

It is the whos that keep relationships not whats.

And to know who you want , you first should know who you are.

So how do yo know from the begining that this person is your type?
Here are three musts to check

1. CORE ESSENTIALS [things , you cannot tolerate . AT ALL.]
These things instantly tell you who is not for you.

Core essential are red flags that show you that he is against your core values. These are things you cannot trade.

These are not surface things like crooked eyebrows or disorganized teeth.

They are deep things like not being able to stand someone who takes pleasure in the suffering of others or someone who is judgemental and close minded. By knowing these are the things you cant stand, you also realise who you cant stand.

If you go into a relationship you will always feel irritated and mistreated. Because your core values which are who you are, are not harmonised.


These are things that actually cause conflicts and even break relationships.
Your opinion on these things is least likely to change over the next years
Both yours and theirs’
These are







Do you want to get married? how soon?Is the feeling mutual?

Do you want kids , how many , how soon?
Is he/she thinking the same?

How close are you to you family? Do you like hanging around them too much?
If you are and your patner isn’t one of you will simply need to give in.

Are ready to be the one? Is he/she ready?

What is your opinion and outlook on sex.
Some want to wait , some do not.

Where do you stand?Are you willing to compromise?

Are you frugal(prefer to save as much money as you can) or generous?( a giver and spender)
If you are all opposites, you may work out but there will be issues and you should all be aware why such issues are arising.

If your religion is something that is a big part of who you are , then dating/ marrying someone outside your denomination might be as an issue.
Is it a challenge you are willing to face? Are you willing to compromise?

This is a question you should ask yourself for all these things.

If you are willing to compromise , its a green light. If you both aren’t , it is going to be an issue that will arise from time to time.

These are the whats .

So now you know how we rush to mention the least important things.

They are things like.

I want her to have a big Nyach

I want him to have a car

I want him to be tall

At the core of things like i want her to be independent. Is really I want a woman with whom i can share and not just support.
Its the same when ladies say they want a man with a car. They need a man who is self sufficient.

So it is not the car that they want , it is what brings the car to him & that is ambition and hardwork.

And for the case of Nyach.

Well,That is madness.

That is it twenties . Get to the core of yourselves and have a great time finding & keeping the love of your life.

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