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Good day twenties , it is my hope that you are doing well and are putting your time and energy into building a better and stronger version of yourselves. Thank you so very much for reading my blog. It gives me such an honor to know that my message is being delivered.

For this week i would love to share with you several things you can do to improve your self esteem. It is no doubt that maintaining a healthy self esteem in this era is not the easiest thing to do especially in your twenties.  There is too much perfection (mostly fake perfection) and standards all around us.The feeling of inadequacy is becoming bigger with each day. Here are things you can practice daily to improve and get a healthy self esteem .



Emphasize positive features in others.

This practice not only rids you off jealously steadily but also allows others to emphasize on positive features of yours too. This improves your self esteem. Give genuine compliments are more worthy than pointless praises.


Recognize the needs of others and do no joke or mock one with lower self esteem.

This is referred to as bullying . Making someone weak wont make you any stronger . Making somebody feel less wont make you feel any better about your self. Each one of us is fighting a battle we may not know about. Helping people rise up is most likely to make you feel better about your self than pushing them down.


Provide family support .

Family is one hella groupa people we can be sure will pick us up whenever we fall. Family members will most likely  compliment you and critique you honestly. Family is a solid source of love , compassion and support. Providing and receiving family support boosts our sense of meaningfulness and therefore boosts our self esteem.


Ask for forgiveness when appropriate .

Whenever you feel that you have done something wrong politely ask for forgiveness. The more you are at peace with the people around you the more good and at ease you are going to feel. Don’t be afraid to stand for your self BTW.


Keep fit and healthy .

Body image is also one of the things that lowers the  self esteem of many. if you are one of these people , consider taking care of your health and keeping fit. This is an investment that wont only make you feel good about yourself but also increase your longevity. Mind you that good things take time and therefore allow the changes to take time and #enjoytheprocess


Look at your strong positive features .

We all have these. You may feel bad about not being the best athlete but you may  be the best friends most of your friends have ever had. So take time to appreciate all the wonderful features you have. the combination of those features in you are what makes you you. Celebrate that.


Forgive your self.

As much we want to keep blaming ourselves  for our past mistakes. Realizing that those were part of lessons in our lives , accepting them as a part of our past and moving on is a very important . By  forgiving yourself , you are giving room for better things to happen.


Choose your friends .

Whoever said show me  your friends and i will tell you who you are was the most correct person. Your friends affect how you feel and alter your whole perception of life .learn about the whole influence of friends on your productivity by clicking here.


Nourish your spiritual life .

While most of the above things may involve other people or outward factor , Spiritual life nourishes you from the inside. Taking care of your soul and working to fully connect with your soul , will give you a better understanding of yourself.



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Let us meet here next monday , have a productive week.


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You know the saying it takes twenty years to build a reputation and five minutes to destroy it, the sad truth about this is it is TRUE.
What if I told you am a doctor well-loved by my patients, have saved lives several times. The first image you will have of me is a well-rounded and respectable man. Well that was me a few years ago. I was the man. I did everything right, straight As, focused, well-mannered. Everyone who knew me wanted to carry me around like a trophy. Currently, I am a recovering alcoholic, I have practically no friends, colleagues barely answer my calls, but it wasn’t always like that, a decade ago.

alcohol addiction in my twenties
One of the most important lessons you will learn in your twenties is we all have our demons. Some it’s an ex who wronged us, others its sex, mine well was alcohol and an ex of course. For most of us, our proper relationships begin at our late teenage years and twenties.

broken relationship depression

I met a lady a few years back and unlike the fairy tales,It did not last. Alcohol was my demon and I turned to it as a coping mechanism. I drank so much when my relationship crumbled, I lost a lot of friends and let family members down.
In one year my reputation changed from a hardworking guy to an alcoholic failure. The thing is bad reputations stick more than good ones, I haven’t touched a drink in more than two years, but I still get labeled as such.

Am turned 30 this year, I feel like my twenties have flown by so fast and, yet I have changed and grown a lot. I have had my share of bad days, weeks and months and am I yet to have more. I am aware that I need to develop my coping skills and speak or deal with what bothers me instead of finding unhealthy and destructive coping mechanisms.

So, here’s my take from it all.
Mistakes are a significant part of our twenties and a better off made NOW. There are less people that might be affected by you deciding to use all your money betting on Croatia for a good number of us.

In your twenties learn to reach out to a falling friend. So many times, we see friends failing and we never say a word. Speaking to our circle of support in times of highs and obviously takes a big load of our minds and theirs too.

friendship in alcohol addiction
Success might take twenty years to achieve, don’t feel outdone. Social media is like a highlight reel of or lives. We are not seeing a great deal of the backstage to which we compare ours with.

Another thing is your reputation will NEVER recover, but its alright. People will give you a second chance, they will support you, but will remind you of your faults,  Accept your faults learn what happened has happened.

So, what should you do? Simple, wear your flaws and do not be ashamed of your struggles. Do not try to convince people your flaws aren’t a part of you. Life gets easier when you are open, it might seem tough, but you will cope.

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If you are one amazing twenti who seeks out opportunities to learn or seek support for something you do , at some point you have to prove your worthiness of what you are applying or contesting for.


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how to know your type love

What kind of a patner do you want?

We often respond to this question by saying,

kind, self motivated , good looking , supportive and more.

When we however meet such people , we may not want them for us.

Sometimes you come to learn this so much later in a relationship.

how to know your type math maker

This is because the things we mention are usually whats not whos.

They are what the patner is . Not who the patner is.

It is the whos that keep relationships not whats.

And to know who you want , you first should know who you are.

So how do yo know from the begining that this person is your type?
Here are three musts to check

1. CORE ESSENTIALS [things , you cannot tolerate . AT ALL.]
These things instantly tell you who is not for you.

Core essential are red flags that show you that he is against your core values. These are things you cannot trade.

These are not surface things like crooked eyebrows or disorganized teeth.

They are deep things like not being able to stand someone who takes pleasure in the suffering of others or someone who is judgemental and close minded. By knowing these are the things you cant stand, you also realise who you cant stand.

If you go into a relationship you will always feel irritated and mistreated. Because your core values which are who you are, are not harmonised.


These are things that actually cause conflicts and even break relationships.
Your opinion on these things is least likely to change over the next years
Both yours and theirs’
These are







Do you want to get married? how soon?Is the feeling mutual?

Do you want kids , how many , how soon?
Is he/she thinking the same?

How close are you to you family? Do you like hanging around them too much?
If you are and your patner isn’t one of you will simply need to give in.

Are ready to be the one? Is he/she ready?

What is your opinion and outlook on sex.
Some want to wait , some do not.

Where do you stand?Are you willing to compromise?

Are you frugal(prefer to save as much money as you can) or generous?( a giver and spender)
If you are all opposites, you may work out but there will be issues and you should all be aware why such issues are arising.

If your religion is something that is a big part of who you are , then dating/ marrying someone outside your denomination might be as an issue.
Is it a challenge you are willing to face? Are you willing to compromise?

This is a question you should ask yourself for all these things.

If you are willing to compromise , its a green light. If you both aren’t , it is going to be an issue that will arise from time to time.

These are the whats .

So now you know how we rush to mention the least important things.

They are things like.

I want her to have a big Nyach

I want him to have a car

I want him to be tall

At the core of things like i want her to be independent. Is really I want a woman with whom i can share and not just support.
Its the same when ladies say they want a man with a car. They need a man who is self sufficient.

So it is not the car that they want , it is what brings the car to him & that is ambition and hardwork.

And for the case of Nyach.

Well,That is madness.

That is it twenties . Get to the core of yourselves and have a great time finding & keeping the love of your life.

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