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THE FOUR STAGES OF LIFE 2

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Good day twenties, Thank you very much for reading my blog. Please do follow my blog, join my mailing list and & if you like this don’t hesitate to share it with your friends . WELCOME.

This is a continuation of the four stages of life. if you didn’t get a chance to read the first part, click here to read it first before you proceed with this one to understand those stages first.

 

We need to understand  that, Later stages don’t replace previous stages. They transcend them. Stage Two people still care about social approval. They just care about something more than social approval. Stage 3 people still care about testing their limits. They just care more about the commitments they’ve made.

LIFE STAGES AND WHAT TO DO ABOUT THEM

Each stage represents a reshuffling of one’s life priorities. It’s for this reason that when one transitions from one stage to another, one will often experience a fallout in one’s friendships and relationships. If you were Stage Two and all of your friends were Stage Two, and suddenly you settle down, commit and get to work on Stage Three, yet your friends are still Stage Two, there will be a fundamental disconnect between your values and theirs that will be difficult to overcome.

LIFE STAGES AND WHAT TO DO ABOUT THEM

Generally speaking, people project their own stage onto everyone else around them. People at Stage One will judge others by their ability to achieve social approval. People at Stage Two will judge others by their ability to push their own boundaries and try new things. People at Stage Three will judge others based on their commitments and what they’re able to achieve. People at Stage Four judge others based on what they stand for and what they’ve chosen to live for.

LIFE STAGES AND WHAT TO DO ABOUT THEM

Transitions between the life stages are usually triggered by trauma or an extreme negative event in one’s life. A near-death experience. A divorce. A failed friendship or a death of a loved one.

Trauma causes us to step back and re-evaluate our deepest motivations and decisions. It allows us to reflect on whether our strategies to pursue happiness are actually working well or not.

 

What Gets Us Stuck

LIFE STAGES AND WHAT TO DO ABOUT THEM

 

The same thing gets us stuck at every stage: a sense of personal inadequacy.

 

People get stuck at Stage One because they always feel as though they are somehow flawed and different from others, so they put all of their effort into conforming into what those around them would like to see. No matter how much they do, they feel as though it is never enough.

LIFE STAGES AND WHAT TO DO ABOUT THEM

Stage Two people get stuck because they feel as though they should always be doing more, doing something better, doing something new and exciting, improving at something. But no matter how much they do, they feel as though it is never enough.

LIFE STAGES AND WHAT TO DO ABOUT THEM

Stage Three people get stuck because they feel as though they have not generated enough meaningful influence in the world, that they make a greater impact in the specific areas that they have committed themselves to. But no matter how much they do, they feel as though it is never enough.

LIFE STAGES AND WHAT TO DO ABOUT THEM

One could even argue that Stage Four people feel stuck because they feel insecure that their legacy will not last or make any significant impact on the future generations. They cling to it and hold onto it and promote it with every last gasping breath. But they never feel as though it is enough.

LIFE STAGES AND WHAT TO DO ABOUT THEM

The solution at each stage is then backwards. To move beyond Stage One, you must accept that you will never be enough for everybody all the time, and therefore you must make decisions for yourself.

To move beyond Stage Two, you must accept that you will never be capable of accomplishing everything you can dream and desire, and therefore you must zero in on what matters most and commit to it.

To move beyond Stage Three, you must realize that time and energy are limited, and therefore you must refocus your attention to helping others take over the meaningful projects you began.

To move beyond Stage Four, you must realize that change is inevitable, and that the influence of one person, no matter how great, no matter how powerful, no matter how meaningful, will eventually dissipate too.

 

And life will go on.

 

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  3. Leina Hipoliti Leina

    February 28, 2017 at 10:39 am

    It’s a really nice article, i had to go through the first part before reading this one. God work Herie

  4. juliuskessy45617gmailcom

    February 28, 2017 at 11:51 am

    Such insightful, Kudos Herie!

  5. Pauline

    March 4, 2017 at 8:47 am

    Great work Herie

  6. Dilianny

    July 14, 2017 at 11:54 pm

    Great words

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HERE IS THE EASIEST WAY TO PLAN AND UNDERSTAND YOUR BUSINESS

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Business model canvas!! Sounds like nuclear physics doesn’t it?
It isn’t.
A business model canvas is a tool used by businesses to project what their business is all about briefly.
In contrast to business plan, a business model canvas is so brief .
At the end of this article, there is a template attached, feel free to use it after you have read this article .
Now remember the way you create a business model canvas is very systematic . We have numbered this template to make it a ride on a steep slope.

1. Customer Segments
( WHO ARE YOU TARGETING) Think of your business, very few ( if there are at all) businesses target everyone. Describe your customer. Who are they? What do they want? What do they like?
How old are they?

2.Value proposition
( WHAT IS YOUR PRODUCT OFFERING THEM)
Say you are a coffee shop. Coffee is coffee. If I sell mine packed in an ordinary cup and yours is in a instagram worthy cup. We know why millenials would buy from you.
The Unique value is not always tangible.
Sometimes it is a cause. If part of your profit goes to charity, people may use it for that sake.

3.Channels
Now that you know who you are trying to sell to and what is special about your product .How are you going to get to them ?
Instagram? A physical shop? An event?
Depending on what they do, find out the different ways they can access your product.

4.Customer relationships
To gain a customer is one thing . To keep a customer is a whole different entity. There are shops you go to buy something and the way a seller accomodates you, focuses on making sure you leave satisfied and not just selling you a product gets you hooked. These are the shops people go back to and tell all their friends about.

5. Revenue sources
What are your customers going to pay for? These are the different services or goods you can offer. Say you sell clothes , you could also charge for styling advice or makeover. How can your premises generate you money as well? Can your office be rented fr a day or a week or more?
Exhaust the different ways you can access money and find out ways that match your cause. For example safe space doubles as a women platform and a women co working space .

6.Key Activities
These are the things you need to do . If you are running a website, you need things like hosting, writing, photography etc.. . Include everything you have to do for your business to run and

7.Key Resources
Determine what you need to get the activities done. Funds? Space? Time? People?

8.Key partners
Patnering is the new discount. You do not need to have everything. But you can out source what you have and use it to negotiate.
Patnerships helps cut cost and share audience .

9. Cost structure
Now that you know what you will need to run the business, areas you can find partners in , list the things you will incur cost in.

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HOLIDAY ACTIVITIES FOR ALL UNIVERSITY STUDENTS

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Holiday time ,

A time we have been looking forward to since school started! Blink and share this post if you can relate!

Fun holiday activities

I am a big pro-balance , i believe in late nights, early mornings and coffee but i also believe it is essential to lay back in the Bahamas and have someone bring you a Cool Mojito . So what do you do when you have a month or two of rest. Read On.
1.Rest
A bit Clichè right? But how many of us actually rest at least half of the time during the holiday?

While it is sometimes inevitable to reply that email, Attend that client, making time to take care of you, catch up on your favourite tv show or just sitting and breathing helps clear your brain and make you even more productive.

2. Learn a skill.

What a time to be Alive! Your next skill is literaly a few taps away. This skill can be a hobby you have been looking to get better at like sewing, singing, piano , cooking or something intergral in your career like history taking for new clinical rotation students or something you have wanted to do on the side( you have been talking about how you do not have time, and now Its here! ).

One of the founders of Afyatoon , an animation start-up that provides health education actually learnt how to animate during his summer holiday.

There are some things that are not taught in school and you are probably struggling with such as speaking in public , budgeting , dressing well, healthy living & more. Take time to train yourself on that.

3. Work on your side hustle
Balancing between studies and work is a challenge. Sometimes they are all demanding our time and energy. The holiday time therefore is a great time to focus on this thing , give it a mega push and this push will even save you the hustle when school starts.

 

4. Learn, explore and grow.
It is really eye-opening to learn a new thing or get to understand a certain topic . This can be a great time to do that. There is vast majority of knowledge and information on blogs, social media and in the actual world for you to learn .

Be curious, google , check out some you tube videos . But most of Enjoy your holiday .

 

What are you doing this holiday?

 

Twentiesco consultation doors are open! Book your consulation today and lets walk  this adulthood  journey together.

 

 

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HOW TO APPLY FOR OPPORTUNITIES AND ACTUALLY GET THEM

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If you are one amazing twenti who seeks out opportunities to learn or seek support for something you do , at some point you have to prove your worthiness of what you are applying or contesting for.

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