​                Being a global citizen in the 21st century is a privilege and a piece of cake. People are connected to each other, giving and receiving information within a click of a second on the palms of their hands.  The growth of science and technology has been of a very big impact in today’s society especially to growing teens and tweens like me and you. It was just last week, I was talking to a good friend who happens to study oversees via whatsapp call, and after a very long nice conversation I began to think, waoh!! Technology makes the world “flat”, I mean its amazing right?. The growth of social medias has taken connection to a whole new level, making life as simplified as unfriending someone on facebook, just a click of a button and voila!! We are not friends anymore. 

            Never the less, technology has it’s pros and cons. Probably there is more isolation than connection. Have you ever been in a family reunion or party where everyone seems to be praying to a “god” who won’t talk back, thanking him for the communionship but you realize it’s their phones they are busy with?. That is what I’m talking about, technology has created more of “I’s” than “We’s” , technology has brought more of “self-ies”, technology has brought more isolation than connection. While we’re busy chatting with multiple strangers in the internet, technology is denying us the opportunity to make real conversations and connections. I have come to realize most people who look to be “intimate” on social media are “boring” in real life. We can not communicate and hold real conversations anymore. It has become my biggest concern that the 21st tweens can not seat and hold conversations, I mean who approaches a girl in real life anymore? (you’re smiling right), these small things called phones have replaced “I love you” to “I luv u” and someone out there thinks there is no difference between the two. We are not able to make real friends, real relationships all because they look too good in the internet and where are lazy to replenish them in real life. 

                    Well, may I get my self clearly understood, I’m not saying technology is bad or it should somehow be abandoned. All I’m saying is technology should not take us away from the reality of life, it should not deny us the opportunity of eating a healthy meal like we used to always do in the past, everyone at the table listening and talking to real people about real things instead of holding our phones under the table up-to dating our statuses to “having dinner with fam”, what family are you talking about?. 

Does social media create more isolation? Don’t stand on the fence, feel free to tell me what you think 

May the transformation forces be with you 





I googled the effects of Pornography . After I had written “the effects of” , nicotine,heroine and cocaine were among the suggestions.
Google knows that 1 out of 4 internet searches are porn related and it’s here suggesting cocaine. Let’s leave this 19 year old aside.
Before we debate on  whether Pornography watching is right or wrong. Let’s see what Pornography watching and Masturbation have to offer.
1.Relieves sexual tension
This is the basic idea behind the two. Masturbating releases this tension and has kept most young and old people going for long without sex. An avarage man masturbates 4 times a week and it’s the nearly half  for girls.

The numbers are going higher because there is sexual content everywhere these days . The songs are sexual
The movies are extremely sexual
To top that up with social media and the fashion industry

Its hard to not think of it being sorrounded by all these sexual content
Oh even jokes are sexual
2.Disrupts intimacy in a relationship
The basis of any relationship is not sex . Relationships fulfill the human need to belong ,to love and to be loved .it is in this loving that each of the patners offers themselves to the  other partner  in different ways one of them being Sex. And so watching porn changes the way one sees a relationship from a support system to sex alone. Relationships get harder because no one knows what are relationship is without sex. And so one doesn’t reap all the benefits of being in a relationship.

Apart from this the image of other human beings becomes that of lust and sets standards that are unrealistic to real life.This creates a feeling of inadequacy and downlooking to the reality around .

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  1. May lead to Depression
    Pornography is not usually watched in the cinema.

It is the worst case of addiction because while cocaine and heroin addiction is group / gang bases. A Pornography addiction occurs in the dark and is the hardest to get out of.
This addiction may lead to Depression because whenever we have orgasms , we feel happy because of a chemical in our brain called Dopamine. Now if this was a relationship it means you would grow fonder of the person you are making love to. But in the case of Pornography and Masturbation, this Dopamine makes us grow fonder of Pornography and masturbation . And our brain becomes used to extremely high levels of Dopamine that our normal level seem too low and so we feel low as well.Persistence of these especially if it is a stress reliever may lead to Depression and anxiety.

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  1. Personal growth
    In the journey of self development, self discipline and love are very essential .This includes learning to focus your energy on REAL relationships and REAL connections . If you are looking to break free from Pornography Addiction, you need to monitor the sexual content you are exposing yourself to, identify patterns that have led you to that addiction and find a healthy solution to them and engage yourself in fruitful social activities. Falling back to the addiction should not be the end of the struggles. You should be determined to rise back again no matter how many times you fall.


Resist that Click . Live a meaningful life .

All the best.


That shoe is very Nice..
It would go well with this matching fringe top
Fringes look perfect with Ripped jeans ,let me get this jeans chocker like Kim Kardashian’s
A hat and a matching bag are lifeee😌😌..

What the hell am I doing ..I just came to pick a dress for Molly’s birthday.. For the fourth time ..
I’ll get a pair of shoes too and a glitter handbag ..
The neck area is so empty I need a necklace too oh and matching earrings and a bracelet


And On and on and on


Black Friday Crowd shopping

We are in an ever increasing rush to accumulate ,own and dump this for that.
Unfortunately we buy some of these things believing they will bring us Content and fulfilmen which they don’t and so we dump them . Inside our homes.

Our spaces get smaller and our need to own more grows bigger.
And we are still not as happy as we thought we’d be.
We spend years working hard to get to the next level.. only to realise that there is a next level after that and a next and a next
Then we die ..

If we are lucky enough to get to the top , We realise that it doesn’t bring us as much joy as we thought it would. 

We have lost years climbing that ladder and we didn’t get to enjoy the journey because we were so obsessed with the destination.

Sometimes we think that our worth as people is determined by what we can afford and own and so we are so focused on proving that we can accumulate stuff. We accumulate this stuff and still nothing changes in our lives.

I shall not lie and say that money , status and fame are nothing because they are something. They are a result of a bigger thing. A much more valuable thing than all of them combined, and that is Purpose.

Whatever we buy , whatever we work hard for should serve that purpose and keep us in alignment with it.

If it doesn’t,it is TRASH.

This is what Minimalism is all about.
The goal of Minimalism is to free you and me from the greedy materialistic mode to Purposefulness .There are no rules with Minimalism only that you let go what you dont need.

In doing this , you are also going to buy more quality things, save more , have more space and not spend so much time taking care of things that are not taking care of you. 

I am going to leave you with 3 challenges today
1.Let go of all the TRASH you have.
Go through your things and throw ,sell or donate whatever is no longer useful.

2.Live in the moment. Appreciate the place where you are right now as it is. Also appreciate all the challenges and freedom it comes with.


3.Ask yourself these 3 questions before you buy anything
i.Must I buy this?

ii.Do I already own something that compliments this or does what it does?

iii.What are the three occasions in the next three months that I will use/wear it


Till Next time.

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Written by

Irene Denis ( bahatidenis@outlook.com)

We try so much to make things work. We try so hard to know people and in the process they only tell us what they want us to know, and we miss out the tiny but very important details. We miss out details that we would have noticed if we took the time to notice rather than letting things be presented to us on a silver plate. A matter can be presented as white or black, shades of whatever color are non existent! The twentieth century has evolved and twisted everything. Meetings are held on the phone, plans and schedules are made in the phone, sermons are sent through social networks, people meet and actually date via social media. As if this is not enough to make my my great grandmother faint in shock (May her soul rest in peace) people actually get married through the internet!! I repeat myself, people nowadays creat an imaginary scene where they walk down the aisle and make their vows!!! (Lets all please have a moment of silence to ponder a while upon this….)

Sincerely speaking, i am no guru at this, but i think somethings were meant to be done at some place. But anyways, back to my point, people tend to make every conversation a Q n A session and sometimes a simple conversation may become an interrogation!

People just ask a lot of questions that other people have no honest answers for. If you want to know a persons true character or intention, it would be best to take some time getting to know them and let things unfold slowly, naturally. Not to mean that you shouldn’t ask any questions if you are interested in knowing something about them. Asking will help you align the person in the direction of what you would like to know in a smart and careful way. Turning a conversation into an interrogation session only allows you to hear what someone wants you to hear and not the complete truth.

You do not have to talk  to someone about a very complex topic like politics or what their future plans are to get to know them. A simple topic such as the weather of that particular day, their hobbies or what they like to do in their free time may bring out a lot in a person than a questionnaire you prepared for them.

As the pyramid of knowledge is built, the easy things come first and as you move up, the complex things follow. By then, they wouldn’t seem complex because the base that covered the easy staff was well laid.

I would like to relate this in cases where one is building a relationship that will later result into a fruitful marriage. Making choices such as the kind of house or car you would like, the number of children you would like to have, the schools they will go to, and your daily budget will come easy if you paid attention to the little details at the beginning of your relationship. The little but basic things matter a lot. A persons favorite color, hobbies, birth date, favorite food, sleeping or waking time. They may sound irrelevant, but your understanding towards these things is what will make your future better and easier to build.

It is my hope that we will look forward to have meaningful conversations, that will bring to surface our true selves, and allow us to accept each other for who we truly are. A castle would have never been a castle if it wasn’t for the first brick that was laid as a foundation. Every great relationship owes its foundation to the simple but basic things in life. I hope yours will do too, someday soon.



By Steven Chibanhila 


      Well I was raised  and grew by the beach, while you had toys to make a Lego house, I had sand to build a sandcastle which sooner or later I watched it swallowed by the mother sea. To my experience, diversification is the greatest lesson I learned by the beach. I could explore and see footprints of each size, big and small, thick and thin and that made me realize, there is beauty in uniqueness.The uniqueness of red to blue or violet to green is what makes a rainbow 🌈 and I have lived to believe, life is a work of art. Cherish your uniqueness, that is what makes you beautiful for there is beauty in uniqueness. 

          The beach is metaphor to life, since like smooth waves in a sprinkled water basin it needed my focus to understand it’s reflection to life. The ocean storms so hard sometimes, so does my life, so does yours too, if I am to guess. But after every storm the sun will smile and I will feel the warmth, for, for every problem there is a solution, and the soul’s indefeasible duty is to be of good cheer.It is not going to storm forever, have courage better days are yet to come. 

          Growing up at a beautiful view of the east, I could see the sun rise and  watch it fall. That made me realize each day is a gift. Having access to life is nature’s golden opportunity to mankind, all we have to do is grab it and unleash our very best pottentials. So what I have been saying is, life is an adventure, dare it. A duty, perform it. An opportunity, take it. A journey, complete it. Life is a puzzle, we have to solve it and achieve the goal. 

The beach taught me that I need to look at life in a new way. And so must we, ladies and gentlemen. 

May the transformation forces be with you 

    Best regards 




On Wednesdays we crush hard on someone and our crush for today is Samantha Chepi . A 19 year old Tanzanian lady doing multiple things  under the brand samichepi.

Offering a wide range of products and services  like jewelery design and diamond grading  she is also an author , director , co-producer , magazine editor and CEO , recording artist , actress , hair care expert and mentor . Did I say she is only 19 years old? Samantha is the ultimate queen of all trades.


I started SamiChepi 2  years ago in hopes that I will be able to create something suitable for everyone, affordable and easy to use. I believe in the art of creating things and earning the freedom to do something your heart is happy with.

Her instagram handle is @samichepi , and her jewelry store is samichepi jewelry

Till next time.

Believe in yourself


When you feel stressed to complete a certain task , that stress keeps you in alignment with the path you are on. This is good stress and is relieved after completing that particular task.

But then there is the kind of stress that doesn’t serve a purpose for you.It leaves you experiencing anxiety , disconnected and may even end up in depression or a panic attack.

There are times in your lives when something is at stake and you  are worried. Times like sickness of loved ones , financial and relationship issues ,failure in work or studies and so much more. While I’d love to sit here and tell you not to stress , i have been there and i know it wont work. Stressing is human . Stress is a signal .Therefore you should not end up at worrying. If stressing has

i.taken you to a dark place

ii. seems like it is going to or

iii.for the sake of knowledge

Here are ways to deal with stressing and avoiding or getting out of depression.

  1. Identify the origin of your worry  . This may be something that you are experiencing  at that time like failure or a long-term thing.  Make peace with your past. Some incidents may have damaged you, you need to acknowledge that they happened and that they hurt you and grow from them . Beware of your fears and traits and realize that they may also  be the cause of your stress.
  2. Identify your  power in this situation .Getting stuck at worrying isn’t healthy. See what you can do to deal with your stressor . If its a relationship crisis see if you can do something to make it work, or address your partner on some thing that can be done . Ask for a make up test and prepare for it so you don’t fail, ask for forgiveness, forgive . Do something to change the outcome of the situation you are in.
  3. Speak to someone APPROPRIATE . A friend preferably one who understands your situation and isn’t afraid of giving you honest advice . And sometimes that friend is God . So Pray.
  4. Build a great emotional support group. Do not get too immersed in the #hustleislife and forget on your need for human interaction . However big or powerful you may be.Develop a healthy emotional intelligence and a healthy routine ; this is 2017 , we know all work and no play makes you a dull person.
  5. Learn your lesson and move on
  6. Consider therapy. I come from a country  where we go to heal malaria, rashes, fever and physical wounds. We are keen on that. Our physical health but not so keen on our mental health. How many times have we been told to get over it and move on, we need to clean up messes in our lives. Clean up the mess after your broken relationship and family, then move on.You are not a Tsunami. The heart that gets broken today is the one that’s going to love to tomorrow. So make it ready again.when-ur-stressed-out-but-you-play-it-cool-9552786
  7. Do not self medicate and make an effort to stay addiction free

All the best


Till next time


women hate

There are hard truths to swallow. And one of them is that women do hate each other.

Sometimes way too massively.

For as long as I remember I have heard , witnessed and even experienced   women putting down other women and conflicts over best friends, boyfriends, job positions, social acceptance and all that.

There have been millions of conversations on why women hate each other and so many efforts have been put to alleviate this issue.

And there have been several attempts to explains this. AND the common one has been that it is a woman thing.

women hate each other


These things start at a young age as when girl steal hairbands and join forces to laugh at other girls.

I did some google search and i found out that;

Evolutionary psychology  explains this as a natural phenomenon. It says that women are natural caretakers. They are psychologically programmed this way. And so, anything that shows a threat to the thriving of their off springs whether they are present or not needs to be acted upon. And that is why , women don’t hate all women they  hate some men too, because these people may  pose as threats to the thriving of their off springs, or perceived off springs.

Can we have a moment of silence to appreciate this.

What are your thoughts on this?

Do women hate each other?

Why do you think they do?


Before I got in touch with the internet I used to stare at clothes, shoes, home decorations and all that in magazines (I still do) . When I was finally able to google something, I fell in love with eBay, I would stare at shoes and admire several of then the ask my younger sister for her opinion. After that I would choose two or one pair, add it to my cart and then chill FOREVER.

Funny I know

I didn’t  have a credit card at that time and even when I got one I did the same thing.

I would look at things online and admire them and add them to my cart, then remove them. I heard so many horror stories on online theft and fraud.  I wasn’t about to risk my credit card information just to get some shoe and yarn from eBay.

Here are three lifesavers for Online shopping

  1. Kikuu

Kikuu is an online shopping application that links African consumers to a wide range of products in China. Delivery and shipping are free. You only pay the amount you see on the APP which are relatively cheaper to all local and foreign platforms. It takes about 15 days to get the items to the consumer and it is delivered through their express company at no cost. Payment can be done by mobile transfer too.


Like the download of any other social or commercial application, please Visit either the Google Play store or Apple App Store and enter Kikuu in the search option. Then you download and register an account .

  1. Easy Buy Africa

I have only learnt about this recently

Easy buy Africa is a great online company that saves you the worry on shipping and picking up of your product. All you need to do is order your product (from the comfort of your own home or at their offices which has great Italian coffee by the way) and go pick it up at their office. It requires you to open a free account and pay a certain amount depending on what you are purchasing. The other good thing is you can pay in your local currency even using mobile transfer.

Such an awesome thing right?


  1. Pay pal

PayPal is for everyone who pays online. It is safe because your credit card details aren’t shared to whomever you are buying stuff from. It is simple because a very large percent of online shops accepts this payment method and so you only require a password to confirm buying something. This saves you from having to enter your bank details everywhere you shop. Another thing is pay pal checks to see if there is any mismatch in the transaction which makes it even more safer.

So, to open an active PayPal account you need to activate your credit card for e-commerce service. This means calling your Bank providers or visiting. Once you have done that you can now link your PayPal account to your credit card and shop WISELY (This is a topic for another day.)


What is your opinion on safe online shopping especially in Tanzania? Leave that in the comments below .

If this article had added some knowledge in any way feel free to share as much as you can( we deeply appreciate that)

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Till next time, keep becoming the adults you want to be.


SITES YOU SHOULD VISIT….Once in a while.

Hello twenties,I’m sure you all had a great weekend,and so here’s another week and I thought you’d want to explore some new sites..so today I’d love to share with you some sites that I always take time to read,and that I think you buddies should read too.These sites contain a lot of information that you may not necessarily get on social media..

COSMOPOLITAN..well Cosmo is my all time favourite. This touches the areas of beauty,style as well as love.In here you’ll learn a lot about sex & relationships,beauty and so much to do with style too.I’m sure ladies we’ll be fond of this..with Cosmo you can get daily updates as much as you want!

FORBES …so those tech guys,entrepreneurs and investors.. This is your playground. Forbes is actually a global media company which focuses in investing, business, entrepreneurship as well as investing.. This is one great place to combine a taste of a well rounded smart person..Of course it may sound odd to you,but Forbes is a cool place to learn stuffs no one might tell you.
JUST A GUY THING..Men this is actually for you..as it reads,”just a guy thing” ,it’s a site for men with lots of news,sports,style, technology, health, relationships and so many stuffs that any man could actually enjoy…. Check it out.

BUSINESS INSIDERFast growing business site with deep financial, media,technology and other industry  news,updated to meet the reader’s demands daily…All business tips are loaded in here.If you’re thinking of any startup, this could be the right platform to learn new ideas for your business…

VOGUE…. the latest fashion news,beauty coverage,celebrity style,fashion week updates,culture senses and many more are all found in Vogue.. So what else will you miss here..
So many other sites that I couldn’t mention them all,Pinterest , tumbler and so many others,,,so beloved  reader I hope you’ll leave a comment on other sites that you think we should know about….

Until then,have a prosperous week ……



Welcome dear twenties, you are exactly where you need to be; it is another day, quite a blue Monday.  Isn’t it? Honestly I don’t know what that means, but let’s get on with the real business.

This is the official site for special twenties like us, where we get our goals set, plan our future and get our moods up like how real twenties do out there.

Before I give you the UBUYU of today I have a question for you. Have you ever been so high such that you get feelings to fire your boss or slap your dad or piss in the military playground?  If you haven’t its fine and if you have that means nothing, I was just messing up with you.

I think we all know WAHENGA; I like these guys a lot, like really a lot. Such stylish grey hair on their heads and so much wisdom in it: isn’t it super cool?

So this weekend I met one, not that much of grey hair on him but wise enough to be one. I told him about my troubles and difficulties from last semester and all that. I also told him about those break ups I had with my girlfriend and troubles with my GPA.  Also about my decisions to leave aside sports and my blogging and put my entire mind to studies. You know the kind of heat here in MED school.

So I got something from him and found worth sharing. He told me “WHEN YOU DRINK TEA, DRINK TEA”, he added “all laws of physics and nature abide to this, if you follow this all your troubles will be put to an end”.MULTITASK2.jpg

I did put some thought to it and I think we don’t have to quit anything to do well in something we think to be of more importance to us. The key is concentration: drink tea, when you drink tea and enjoy your tea. For there will not be any other moment for tea, enjoy the moment. When it is time for prayer-make the most of it, when it is time for class-make sure you seize that time well, and when it is time for sports or club-make sure you entertain your mind and clear your mind, as for happiness heals your mind and restores your mind to its full function mode, like a factory reset for your phone.

So guys tell me in the comment box below what do you think this wise man was trying to tell me and how do you drink your tea.

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Kama kuna kamsemo nimekaskia sana hivi karibuni ni pambana na hali yako . Ukakaa af ukaongezewa na kuwa pambana na hali yako bila kutingisha yangu.
Leo tutachambua ni jinsi gani unaweza kupambana na hali yako bila kutingisha yangu.

Kwanza kabisa Karibu katika blog ya Twentiesco .Mambo yote kuhusu safari ujana , tukizungumzia hapa. Lengo ni kuweza kufikia pale ambapo tunataka kuwa. Hakikisha unaeka email yako hapo chini ili ujulishwe pale kunapokua na post mpya na vingine vingi.

Kupambana na hali ni kupigana ili kuepuka,kuachana na au kutafuta suluhu kwa changamoto fulani. Changamoto hizi huja katika njia tofauti kama vile maisha,masomo,kazi,mahusiano kati yetu na watu wengine ,Mungu na hata sisi binafsi.

Kutafuta nafuu ni asili ya binadamu hivyo kupambana ni lazima kutokee.

Na namna ya kupambana hutofautiana kati ya mtu na mtu .Mazingira nayo yana mchango wake katika maamuzi . Hili ni somo la siku nyingine.

Mambo makuu matatu ya kufanya ili usitingishe hali ya mwenzako ni

1.Tambua kuwa kila mtu ana hali yake.

Tena nyingine kubwa tu.

Hata kama hajakuambia ana hali

Unamuona yupo yupo tu ,ana hali yake

Amefurahi kila siku ,ana hali yake

Amekaa kama amekamilisha kila kitu naye ana hali yake huyo.
2.Heshimu kupambana kwao
Tumepitia na tutaendelea kupitia ugumu fulani wakati Fulani.Kutokua na hali fulani sio sababu ya kumtizama mwingine na kumuona ni wa ajabu .Heshimu juhudi zao katika kupambana huko.Kama huongezi chochote ni bora ukakaa kimya.

3.Pambana na hali yako bila kutingisha ya mwingine.

“Misery loves company”

Inawezekana ukaanguka, ni rahisi kabisa kutamani kuwavuta wengine. Kataa kufanya hivi , Msaada utatoka wapi sasa kama wote mpo chini. Wala kutafuta mwenye hali mbaya zaidi ili ujiskie vizuri.Kwani hali yako imebadilika?
Maoni yako ni nini? Unapambana vipi na hali yako bila kutingisha ya mwingine?

Acha comment apo chini. Bila kusahau kushea hii link na kuweka email yako hapo chini.
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