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Dada yangu alikuwa akiniuliza kuhusu marafiki zangu hapo kabla. Kwa umri wangu niliju anafanya kile ambacho dada yeyote angefanya. sasa naelewa zaidi.

Kama ilivyoombwa na mmoja wa wasomaji wa blog hii. Leo tutaongelea mchango wa marafiki katika maendeleo na ukuaji binafsi. Mimi naamini kwamba kukua na kujiendeleza ni kitu muhimu kwa kila mmoja wetu .

Hebu tuangalie mambo haya kuntu kuhusu marafiki.

  1. Marafiki wenye msimamo hukusaidia kujidhibiti                                                                                Marafiki wa aina hii hukupa msukumo wa kufanya vitu ambavyo kwa mara nyingi usingevifanya . Vitu kama kufanya mazoezi , kuomba kuongezewa mshahara  na vingine vingi.                                                                                                                                        Ni muhimu kuwa na marafiki wa aina hii kwani hutunyoosha sana .                  gym.jpg
  2. Watu wenye marafiki wachache hukosa uzoefu wa kijamii wakutosha.  Unapokuwa na marafiki wengi , unaona na kusikia kuhusu maisha katika pande mbali mbali.   4d3cce499144a790106de3bc9a1f1966
  3. Kuwa na mawasiliano mengi katika mitandao ya jamii huongeza msongo. Hii ni tofauti na tulichokieleza hapo juu. Utafiti unaonesha kuwa watu wenye mahusiano mengi katika mitandao ya jamii , huogopa kuwa “offend” watu na hivyo huwa watu wanaotaka kuwapendeza watu wanaowazunguka.RawpixeliStock_796x551.jpg
  4. Kuwa na marafiki wengi huongeza urefu na thamani ya maisha ya mtu  dsc01962
  5. Marafiki wana uwezo wa kubadili mtazamo fikra , imani na tabia zetu .  Inawezekana kuhisi mabadiliko katika mood pale unapoangalia filamu na pengine hata kulia . Hii pia hutokea kwa marafiki. Pale ambapo imani na mtazamo wetu unapopata changamoto , kunakuwa na uwezekano wa kubadilika kwa mitazamo hiyo.
  6. Pia kuna tabia ya kuiga yale ambayo marafiki zetu hufanya . Hii haiishii kwenye matendo tu .Utafiti umeonyesha kuwa tumbili huwa haogopi  nyoka lakini alianza kuwaogopa wakati alipoona  wasiwasi kwa tumbili mwingine.  Hii ina maana kwamba kuangalia mtu mwenye  hisia za hofu, wasiwasi au unyonge inaweza kutufundisha jinsi ya kuwa kama yeye.                              1ae41156b8e6e15815c9a009eedaade1Kama umejizungusha na watu wenye mawazo ya kushindwa , kujifananisha na wengine na kutokuona uwezekano wa vitu basi tunajua mtazamo wako utakapoelekea. Hebu  tujiulize kama marafiki tulionao wanatufanya tuwe watu bora ?  Au swali bora zaidi?Tunawafanya marafiki zetu wawe watu  bora zaidi?                            Asante sana  kwa kusoma blogu hii na kama umeipenda hii posti basi usisite kushare na marafiki zako.                                                                                                                                 Tukutane jumatatu ya wiki ijayo nikikuletea mada nyingine itakayokupeleka katika sehemu bora zaidi uwapo kwenye miaka yako ya ishirini.                                                                                                                                                                                                                                 Sayonara

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Holiday time ,

A time we have been looking forward to since school started! Blink and share this post if you can relate!

Fun holiday activities

I am a big pro-balance , i believe in late nights, early mornings and coffee but i also believe it is essential to lay back in the Bahamas and have someone bring you a Cool Mojito . So what do you do when you have a month or two of rest. Read On.
A bit Clichè right? But how many of us actually rest at least half of the time during the holiday?

While it is sometimes inevitable to reply that email, Attend that client, making time to take care of you, catch up on your favourite tv show or just sitting and breathing helps clear your brain and make you even more productive.

2. Learn a skill.

What a time to be Alive! Your next skill is literaly a few taps away. This skill can be a hobby you have been looking to get better at like sewing, singing, piano , cooking or something intergral in your career like history taking for new clinical rotation students or something you have wanted to do on the side( you have been talking about how you do not have time, and now Its here! ).

One of the founders of Afyatoon , an animation start-up that provides health education actually learnt how to animate during his summer holiday.

There are some things that are not taught in school and you are probably struggling with such as speaking in public , budgeting , dressing well, healthy living & more. Take time to train yourself on that.

3. Work on your side hustle
Balancing between studies and work is a challenge. Sometimes they are all demanding our time and energy. The holiday time therefore is a great time to focus on this thing , give it a mega push and this push will even save you the hustle when school starts.


4. Learn, explore and grow.
It is really eye-opening to learn a new thing or get to understand a certain topic . This can be a great time to do that. There is vast majority of knowledge and information on blogs, social media and in the actual world for you to learn .

Be curious, google , check out some you tube videos . But most of Enjoy your holiday .


What are you doing this holiday?


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You know the saying it takes twenty years to build a reputation and five minutes to destroy it, the sad truth about this is it is TRUE.
What if I told you am a doctor well-loved by my patients, have saved lives several times. The first image you will have of me is a well-rounded and respectable man. Well that was me a few years ago. I was the man. I did everything right, straight As, focused, well-mannered. Everyone who knew me wanted to carry me around like a trophy. Currently, I am a recovering alcoholic, I have practically no friends, colleagues barely answer my calls, but it wasn’t always like that, a decade ago.

alcohol addiction in my twenties
One of the most important lessons you will learn in your twenties is we all have our demons. Some it’s an ex who wronged us, others its sex, mine well was alcohol and an ex of course. For most of us, our proper relationships begin at our late teenage years and twenties.

broken relationship depression

I met a lady a few years back and unlike the fairy tales,It did not last. Alcohol was my demon and I turned to it as a coping mechanism. I drank so much when my relationship crumbled, I lost a lot of friends and let family members down.
In one year my reputation changed from a hardworking guy to an alcoholic failure. The thing is bad reputations stick more than good ones, I haven’t touched a drink in more than two years, but I still get labeled as such.

Am turned 30 this year, I feel like my twenties have flown by so fast and, yet I have changed and grown a lot. I have had my share of bad days, weeks and months and am I yet to have more. I am aware that I need to develop my coping skills and speak or deal with what bothers me instead of finding unhealthy and destructive coping mechanisms.

So, here’s my take from it all.
Mistakes are a significant part of our twenties and a better off made NOW. There are less people that might be affected by you deciding to use all your money betting on Croatia for a good number of us.

In your twenties learn to reach out to a falling friend. So many times, we see friends failing and we never say a word. Speaking to our circle of support in times of highs and obviously takes a big load of our minds and theirs too.

friendship in alcohol addiction
Success might take twenty years to achieve, don’t feel outdone. Social media is like a highlight reel of or lives. We are not seeing a great deal of the backstage to which we compare ours with.

Another thing is your reputation will NEVER recover, but its alright. People will give you a second chance, they will support you, but will remind you of your faults,  Accept your faults learn what happened has happened.

So, what should you do? Simple, wear your flaws and do not be ashamed of your struggles. Do not try to convince people your flaws aren’t a part of you. Life gets easier when you are open, it might seem tough, but you will cope.

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If you are one amazing twenti who seeks out opportunities to learn or seek support for something you do , at some point you have to prove your worthiness of what you are applying or contesting for.


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