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Inabidi ieleweke kuwa stage za mwanzo hazichukui nafasi ya stage za zilizopita..Waliopo katika hatua ya pili sio kwamba hawajali jamii inawachukuliaje wanajali kitu zaidi ya mtazamamo wa jamii . Wao hujali kuvuka limits na kufanya vitu vikubwa.
Waliopo hatua ya tatu pia wanajali kitu kikubwa zaidi ya kufanya mambo makubwa , wao hujali commitments zao .
Waliopo hatua ya nne vile vile wao huwa na utimilifu zaidi wakijali ni vipi watafanya yale walioyaishi yaendelee kuishi.
Unapohama kutoka hatua moja kwenda nyingine , mahusiano yako na vitu unavyojali pia hubadilika. Na ndio kitu kinachosababisha kupoteza marafiki na kubadili mahusiano. Ni muhimu kufahamu hili ili usilazimishe vitu .
Kama wewe pamoja na rafiki zako mlikuwa katika hatua ya kwanza ,kisha wewe ukatulia na ukapata commitments basi bila shaka Kutakua na utofauti wa mambo mnayoyapa kipaumbele utakaofelisha mahusiano yenu.
Kuhama kutoka hatua moja hadi nyingine husababishwa na trauma ,tukio hasi ,kukaribia kupoteza maisha ,kuvunjika kwa urafiki au kupoteza mpendwa.
Mambo haya humfanya mtu aangalie ni vipi anatafuta furaha. Na kama njia hiyo inamletea furaha. Pia mtu huangalia msukumo na maamuzi yake na kuyafanyia kazi .
Kila mtu huakisi hatua aliopo kwa wengine. Mtu aliye hatua ya kwanza hujaji watu kutokana kiwango chao cha kukubalika katika jamii.
Vile vile watu waliopo hatua ya pili hujaji watu kutokana na uwezo wao wa kufanya mambo makubwa na kuvuka vikomo vyao.
Walio katika hatua ya tatu hujaji watu kutokana na commitments walizojiwekea.
Na wale waliopo hatua ya nne hujaji watu kutokana na yale wanayoamini na walioamua kuyasimamia.
Ni nini hukwamisha watu katika hatua hizi?
Kutohisi kuwa wanatosha na wamefanya vya kutosha.
Watu waliokwama katika hatua ya kwanza huona kuwa bado wana uhitaji wa kukubalika na jamii. Hivyo hubaki wakijaribu kumfurahisha kila mtu na kufuata viwango na mategemeo ya jamii bila kuona kwamba imetosha. Haitokaa Itoshe.
Waliokwama katika hatua ya pili huona kuwa hawajajipima vya kutosha wala kufanya mambo makubwa vya kutosha. Wao huendelea kufanya vitu vinavyopima uwezo wao. Bila kuona kuwa inatosha.
Wanaokwama katika hatua ya tatu huona kwamba hawajafanya vyema katika maeneo waliyochagua . Hujitahidi kadri ya uwezo wao lakini bado huona haijatosha.
Na hatimaye wanaokwama katika hatua ya nne ,tunaweza kusema kuwa huogopa kwamba Urithi waliouacha hautoshi . Hutumia kila pumzi yao wakiweka msisitizo kwa yale waliyoyasimamia. Pamoja na kufanya hivyo kamwe hawaoni kuwa imetosha.
Tufanye nini sasa?
Jawabu la swali hili linapatikana kwa kurudi nyuma.
Ili kutoka hatua ya pili ,inabidi ukubali kwamba huwezi kutimiza kila ndoto na tamaa yako. Hivyo uchague vile vya muhimu na kujicommit kwa hayo.
Ili kutoka hatua ya tatu ,inabidi ufahamu kuwa muda na nguvu yako zina kikomo. Hivyo ni vizuri ukatumia mda huu kufundisha kazi na project zako kwa watu wadogo .
Na kusudi uweze kutoka hatua ya nne , inabidi ukubali kuwa nguvu ,ushawishi na msimamo wa mtu hata awe mkubwa vipi. Mwisho hupotea tu.
Na Maisha yataendelea.
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HOLIDAY ACTIVITIES FOR ALL UNIVERSITY STUDENTS
Holiday time ,
A time we have been looking forward to since school started! Blink and share this post if you can relate!
I am a big pro-balance , i believe in late nights, early mornings and coffee but i also believe it is essential to lay back in the Bahamas and have someone bring you a Cool Mojito . So what do you do when you have a month or two of rest. Read On.
A bit Clichè right? But how many of us actually rest at least half of the time during the holiday?
While it is sometimes inevitable to reply that email, Attend that client, making time to take care of you, catch up on your favourite tv show or just sitting and breathing helps clear your brain and make you even more productive.
2. Learn a skill.
What a time to be Alive! Your next skill is literaly a few taps away. This skill can be a hobby you have been looking to get better at like sewing, singing, piano , cooking or something intergral in your career like history taking for new clinical rotation students or something you have wanted to do on the side( you have been talking about how you do not have time, and now Its here! ).
One of the founders of Afyatoon , an animation start-up that provides health education actually learnt how to animate during his summer holiday.
There are some things that are not taught in school and you are probably struggling with such as speaking in public , budgeting , dressing well, healthy living & more. Take time to train yourself on that.
3. Work on your side hustle
Balancing between studies and work is a challenge. Sometimes they are all demanding our time and energy. The holiday time therefore is a great time to focus on this thing , give it a mega push and this push will even save you the hustle when school starts.
4. Learn, explore and grow.
It is really eye-opening to learn a new thing or get to understand a certain topic . This can be a great time to do that. There is vast majority of knowledge and information on blogs, social media and in the actual world for you to learn .
Be curious, google , check out some you tube videos . But most of Enjoy your holiday .
What are you doing this holiday?
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LOSING MY REPUTATION TO AN ADDICTION;LESSONS IN MY TWENTIES
You know the saying it takes twenty years to build a reputation and five minutes to destroy it, the sad truth about this is it is TRUE.
What if I told you am a doctor well-loved by my patients, have saved lives several times. The first image you will have of me is a well-rounded and respectable man. Well that was me a few years ago. I was the man. I did everything right, straight As, focused, well-mannered. Everyone who knew me wanted to carry me around like a trophy. Currently, I am a recovering alcoholic, I have practically no friends, colleagues barely answer my calls, but it wasn’t always like that, a decade ago.
One of the most important lessons you will learn in your twenties is we all have our demons. Some it’s an ex who wronged us, others its sex, mine well was alcohol and an ex of course. For most of us, our proper relationships begin at our late teenage years and twenties.
I met a lady a few years back and unlike the fairy tales,It did not last. Alcohol was my demon and I turned to it as a coping mechanism. I drank so much when my relationship crumbled, I lost a lot of friends and let family members down.
In one year my reputation changed from a hardworking guy to an alcoholic failure. The thing is bad reputations stick more than good ones, I haven’t touched a drink in more than two years, but I still get labeled as such.
Am turned 30 this year, I feel like my twenties have flown by so fast and, yet I have changed and grown a lot. I have had my share of bad days, weeks and months and am I yet to have more. I am aware that I need to develop my coping skills and speak or deal with what bothers me instead of finding unhealthy and destructive coping mechanisms.
So, here’s my take from it all.
Mistakes are a significant part of our twenties and a better off made NOW. There are less people that might be affected by you deciding to use all your money betting on Croatia for a good number of us.
In your twenties learn to reach out to a falling friend. So many times, we see friends failing and we never say a word. Speaking to our circle of support in times of highs and obviously takes a big load of our minds and theirs too.
Success might take twenty years to achieve, don’t feel outdone. Social media is like a highlight reel of or lives. We are not seeing a great deal of the backstage to which we compare ours with.
Another thing is your reputation will NEVER recover, but its alright. People will give you a second chance, they will support you, but will remind you of your faults, Accept your faults learn what happened has happened.
So, what should you do? Simple, wear your flaws and do not be ashamed of your struggles. Do not try to convince people your flaws aren’t a part of you. Life gets easier when you are open, it might seem tough, but you will cope.
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