Monthly Archives: January 2017


I should first apologise for not posting last week. Last week was pretty crazy .I got several life blows in the face and so I had my hands  pretty full . Moving on , I almost always tell people that your twenties are the proper time to build yourself to be the adult you aspire to be , As a personal development freak , I am always looking for ways to improve sectors of mine that will bring a positive impact in my life. Today I am bringing you things you can do to build yourself much better.

Know your self .

I should hear this more. Knowing yourself is such a life saver. And this isn’t about surface ,it is good that you should know and connect with yourself to a deeper level. This is a crucial step because most times we are so busy building relationships with other people we forget to build ourselves. We are so busy knowing what other people are like but have lil knowledge about ourselves.

It is good to know your weaknesses and strengths . If you don’t everything will be  a misfortune or luck

Practice of good intrapersonal skills.

Every now and then you meet someone with extraordinary intrapersonal skills but chances are, you may not even know it. That’s because you usually notice it only when someone has poor skills in this area.

Someone without good intrapersonal skills might take stupid risks or start yelling and screaming at the drop of a hat. You tend to notice these extremes of behavior  but you don’t notice it when someone is balanced and even tempered.Cultivate your mental development.Control your character through your thinking. The following are some key things to building good intrapersonal skills.

  • Knowing what drives, angers, motivates, frustrates, inspires you
  • Ability to control unexpected emotions like anger and frustration
  • Knowing your own strengths and limitations
  • Self confidence
  • Initiative
  • Taking measured risks
  • Taking responsibility
  • The ability to stay calm and balanced in stressful situations
  • Persistence and perseverance in challenging situations
  • Resilience and ability to bounce back from setbacks
  • The ability to forgive and forget

Affirm yourself in your own worth.

Babies are born knowing their self-worth; as life moves on, the comments, expectations, and attitudes of other people can wear down this natural sense of self-worth. Self-worth is what enables us to believe that we are capable of doing our best with our talents, of contributing well in society, and that we deserve to lead a fulfilling life. Building it up again is therefore natural, essential, and healthy.


Find support in your group identity.

In order to increase our self-image we enhance the status of the group to which we belong.A social identity is the part of an individual’s self-concept derived from perceived membership in a relevant social group. Feeling like you actually belong somewhere and being Damn proud of it is every humans need . So look into where you belong and be grateful and strongly feel that you are a part of that group and together you are significant members of the society.


Take care of physical aspects of your life. 

Live Healthy, eat healthy foods, get enough sleep, exercise regularly, and avoid drugs and alcohol. Practice good hygiene. See friends to build your sense of belonging. Try to do something you enjoy every day.Nourish your social relationships as well,joys and pains are magnified by relationships.


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Its two weeks to Valentines day Loves, ♥ ♥

Next weeks post is going to be fireeee.



The best thing about December holidays is the discounts (wink).  One of the things I was eagerly waiting to be on discount were books. If you are on a budget ( or broke or you just love discounts) then you should keep track of seasons.

I am currently reading a book Nan S Russell called hitting your stride. It is a book about bringing the best of yourself in to your working place (or whatever your main activity is).

I would lobve to share with you something from the Fourth chapter titled the stories we tell. Hop Along

Stories you tell’ discusses the power of story and powerful difference in the results we get and the impact we have. If your story is a victim’s story, then you will find problems. If it’s about winning at work and achieving your life’s potential, you will see challenges to meet. It’s not about the words, but the vision behind them. How you see your life is how you live it.


We tell stories about ourselves or others to our friends, family and sometimes even strangers (unknowingly). The prime listeners of our stories are ourselves. We build our life around the stories we tell. So, what stories are you telling. As a writer, I believe in the power of words, A single event can be told by more than a hundred people in hundreds of ways. How are you telling yours?


Just as we tell stories about other people, we listen to other people’s stories about us.  These stories may not be necessarily true, that is why you should only believe in what you test and judge to be true. Because too often the stories told tell us about the teller. The wonderful thing about stories is


 Everyone out there has a story, they may not even know it. But if you tell your story and make them re frame the way they organize their thoughts and generally how they do things then you will have influenced positively (hopefully). And this is the second reason to why you should tell your story well.


The stories we tell influence how we are perceived at our community. Whether you are a team player or not a team player, victim or problem solver, resilient or discouraged, approachable or distant. They also affect how we see ourselves because YOU LIVE INTO YOUR STORY.

I think the bottom line is we should transform your story telling from an automatic reaction into a considered decision . Only then can we bring the difference , offer the best of our selves and even open new possibilities.

Till next time , SAYONARA


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Thank you



Good day twenties , Its my hope that you are doing fine and are putting time and energy into becoming the better adult you want to be . Can I  say in advance that This post isnt meant to tell you to stop going out and having fun. This post is here to tell encourage you to be present WHERE YOU ARE.


Its obvious we need some definitions here

FOMO ; The fear of missing out on opportunities, people , experiences and events.Anxiety that an exciting or interesting event may currently be happening elsewhere, often aroused by posts seen on a social media website.

MOJO: Your uniqueness as a person. You shouldnt lose that EVER .

Can i begin by telling you that your uniqueness as a person is very important . Not just to your self but also to the world . We need your unique combination of abilities , talents and characters The world starts spinning in the wrong direction when you think you should be doing what everyone else is doing . You just cant copy and paste someones life into yours.

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We are in a rush to live and in the process we are missing out. We are rushing from one event to another . Before we break ourselves , let us ask ourselves if this fear of missing out is maximizing our potential or draining our energy.

FOMO tells us that we should be doing something better somewhere else. FOMO uses comparison as a tool to do that .


We end up living day by day proving that we are not missing out . In real sense we are missing out. We are missing out on our lives.Every time we say YES out of the fear of missing out , we say NO to ourselves.

We need courage to  stay on our course and gratitude will keep us grounded and guide us home.


A few things you should know is when you think you will be missing out , you actually wont be missing out .Consider your FOMO as Fun of missing out . Exercise Power and Love . Instead of thinking of what you are missing out , you can also organize your own fun activities and be more present in those you are in. Also instead of crying over missing that night out, you can be happy that your friends had  fun.



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