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HOW OUR STAGES IN LIFE DEFINE WHAT WE DO

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You believe in Santa Claus.

You don’t believe in Santa Claus.

You are Santa Claus.

You look like Santa Claus.

These stages can also be broken down into four stages that are not Santa related.

  1. Mimicry

At this first stage we are helpless, we can’t talk, walk or feed ourselves. We copy from our parents or our care takers. The idea is that the adults in the community around us help us through supporting our ability to make decisions and take action ourselves.

 

But some adults and community members around us suck.They punish us for our independence. They don’t support our decisions. And therefore we don’t develop autonomy. We get stuck in Stage One, endlessly mimicking those around us, endlessly attempting to please all so that we might not be judged.

LIFE STAGES AND WHAT TO DO ABOUT THEM

 

We also learn how to function in the society and support our daily activities. This mimicking goes on till adolescence or early adulthood. For some people, it may last further into adulthood. A select few wake up one day at age 45 realizing they’ve never actually lived for themselves and wonder where the hell the years went.

Here there is constant search of approval and validation. There is absence of independent and personal value. At this stage we become aware of society standards and expectations but we must also learn to be strong enough to act in spite of those standard. We must also develop ability to act by/for ourselves.

LIFE STAGES AND WHAT TO DO ABOUT THEM

 

  1. Self-discovery

In this stage we learn what makes us different. We begin making decisions and testing ourselves. This involves trial error and experimentation, living in new places and meeting new people.

Some of these experiences go well and some don’t. Stick with the ones that go well and move on. This stage goes on until we hit our limitations.

LIFE STAGES AND WHAT TO DO ABOUT THEM

The earlier this stage happens in our lives the better.

We all know it’s never too late.

In the near end of this stage, we Know things that are bad and those that are good for a while. Things like sex, travelling and drinking. This goes until we are in our thirties.

NOTE

Some people are stuck in this stage

Always discovering themselves and finding nothing.

Your limitations are important because you must eventually come to the realization that your time on this planet is limited and you should therefore spend it on things that matter most. That means realizing that just because you can do something, doesn’t mean you should do it. That means realizing that just because you like certain people doesn’t mean you should be with them. That means realizing that there are opportunity costs to everything and that you can’t have it all.

 

There are some people who never allow themselves to feel limitations — either because they refuse to admit their failures, or because they delude themselves into believing that their limitations don’t exist. These people get stuck in Stage Two.

LIFE STAGES AND WHAT TO DO ABOUT THEM

 

These are the “serial entrepreneurs” who are 38 and living with mom and still haven’t made any money after 15 years of trying. These are the “aspiring actors” who are still waiting tables and haven’t done an audition in two years. These are the people who can’t settle into a long-term relationship because they always have a gnawing feeling that there’s someone better around the corner. These are the people who brush all of their failings aside as “releasing” negativity into the universe or “purging” their baggage from their lives.

I Know i am in stage two , ARE you in your stage two too ? Let me know in the comments below how your stage two is going .

  1. Commitment

Now it’s time to make your dent. Most people stop entertaining pointless friends & activities. This stage is all about maximizing your potential. What will you leave behind, what will people remember you by. It’s all about how you are going to leave the world different as you found it.

LIFE STAGES AND WHAT TO DO ABOUT THEM

In “normal” individuals, Stage Three generally lasts from around 30-ish-years-old until one reaches retirement age.

 

People who get lodged in Stage Three often do so because they don’t know how to let go of their ambition and constant desire for more. This inability to let go of the power and influence they crave counteracts the natural calming effects of time and they will often remain driven and hungry well into their 70s and 80s.5

  1. Legacy

This stage involves holding on to what we already have through advising and passing down projects to juniors.

There is greater level of self-control in this stage.

LIFE STAGES AND WHAT TO DO ABOUT THEM

Stage Four is important psychologically because it makes the ever-growing reality of one’s own mortality more bearable. As humans, we have a deep need to feel as though our lives mean something. This meaning we constantly search for is literally our only psychological defense against the incomprehensibility of this life and the inevitability of our own death.6 To lose that meaning, or to watch it slip away, or to slowly feel as though the world has left you behind, is to stare oblivion in the face and let it consume you willingly.

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Beware of inter stage conflicts and reshuffling

These stages occur and last differently for each person.

so chill and be awesome.

WHAT STAGE DO YOU THINK YOU ARE IN ? I would love to know,so leave a comment below telling me about that.

We could be stage mates . Right?

Okay  bye.

 

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HOLIDAY ACTIVITIES FOR ALL UNIVERSITY STUDENTS

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Holiday time ,

A time we have been looking forward to since school started! Blink and share this post if you can relate!

Fun holiday activities

I am a big pro-balance , i believe in late nights, early mornings and coffee but i also believe it is essential to lay back in the Bahamas and have someone bring you a Cool Mojito . So what do you do when you have a month or two of rest. Read On.
1.Rest
A bit Clichè right? But how many of us actually rest at least half of the time during the holiday?

While it is sometimes inevitable to reply that email, Attend that client, making time to take care of you, catch up on your favourite tv show or just sitting and breathing helps clear your brain and make you even more productive.

2. Learn a skill.

What a time to be Alive! Your next skill is literaly a few taps away. This skill can be a hobby you have been looking to get better at like sewing, singing, piano , cooking or something intergral in your career like history taking for new clinical rotation students or something you have wanted to do on the side( you have been talking about how you do not have time, and now Its here! ).

One of the founders of Afyatoon , an animation start-up that provides health education actually learnt how to animate during his summer holiday.

There are some things that are not taught in school and you are probably struggling with such as speaking in public , budgeting , dressing well, healthy living & more. Take time to train yourself on that.

3. Work on your side hustle
Balancing between studies and work is a challenge. Sometimes they are all demanding our time and energy. The holiday time therefore is a great time to focus on this thing , give it a mega push and this push will even save you the hustle when school starts.

 

4. Learn, explore and grow.
It is really eye-opening to learn a new thing or get to understand a certain topic . This can be a great time to do that. There is vast majority of knowledge and information on blogs, social media and in the actual world for you to learn .

Be curious, google , check out some you tube videos . But most of Enjoy your holiday .

 

What are you doing this holiday?

 

Twentiesco consultation doors are open! Book your consulation today and lets walk  this adulthood  journey together.

 

 

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HOW TO APPLY FOR OPPORTUNITIES AND ACTUALLY GET THEM

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If you are one amazing twenti who seeks out opportunities to learn or seek support for something you do , at some point you have to prove your worthiness of what you are applying or contesting for.

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4 Tips for successfull Business In Agriculture For Beginners..

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agribussiness sucess tips

I have always heard national leaders claim that Agriculture is the backbone of Tanzania. Infact I wrote a couple of essay discussing this same a few year back in secondary school.
However, I have seen more backs deformed, callous on their hands and accidents where you cultivated your leg instead of the land than I have seen these same people afford to treat any of these conditions.
I have also been hearing that farmers in the west are rich and unbothered.
But then do you think such farmers cultivate acres of land ,wait for rain (fingers crossed ) , uproot weeds, harvest and sell to the next buyer that can pay them something close to half their children’s school fees?
Agriculture is a pretty lucrative sector. And if you aim in these areas , you might make a fortune.

1.Quality
There is a big market we are not accessing in the western countries because of standard barriers. A large number of crops we produce are of a good enough quality. But what about the end products? Can they cross the Jk.Nyerere airport without causing a security shut down? Another issue that hinders these products is packaging. Poor packaging makes a product look cheap and not reliable.

2.Processing and Storage
Why do we pay these timewasters so much.
Because they process raw products. Turning sisal to .. and selling finished products has higher profit . . Plus how do you expect to make much of a profit when everyone is trying to sell the same thing before it rots. These products need to be stored well too so that their value stays and can be sold even after the season is over.

Also Read: PACKAGING IS A PART OF BRANDING.

FAST MONEY IDEAS AND NOT TOO FAST

3.WHAT WOULD YOU FIND IN DOHA THAT IS IN KHARTOUM. ?
What is trending?
If you want to have a large market, go for products that are widely used in different places and some trending crops. Think Chia seeds, strawberries , pepper etc.

You can also contact restaurants for tenders so you have a market right away.
Let me let you in on a little secret a farmer told me.You do not need acres to farm. A green house is a perfect way to produce extremely quality crops that could sell in Antarctica for a million dollars . There is also an option of renting a farm .
That’s it fellaz ,As this weather moves you to cultivate other people, may you consider trying out crops. This is because agribusiness is worth investing in although it has not succeed to be as attractive as network marketing.

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