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THE FOUR STAGES OF LIFE 2

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Good day twenties, Thank you very much for reading my blog. Please do follow my blog, join my mailing list and & if you like this don’t hesitate to share it with your friends . WELCOME.

This is a continuation of the four stages of life. if you didn’t get a chance to read the first part, click here to read it first before you proceed with this one to understand those stages first.

 

We need to understand  that, Later stages don’t replace previous stages. They transcend them. Stage Two people still care about social approval. They just care about something more than social approval. Stage 3 people still care about testing their limits. They just care more about the commitments they’ve made.

LIFE STAGES AND WHAT TO DO ABOUT THEM

Each stage represents a reshuffling of one’s life priorities. It’s for this reason that when one transitions from one stage to another, one will often experience a fallout in one’s friendships and relationships. If you were Stage Two and all of your friends were Stage Two, and suddenly you settle down, commit and get to work on Stage Three, yet your friends are still Stage Two, there will be a fundamental disconnect between your values and theirs that will be difficult to overcome.

LIFE STAGES AND WHAT TO DO ABOUT THEM

Generally speaking, people project their own stage onto everyone else around them. People at Stage One will judge others by their ability to achieve social approval. People at Stage Two will judge others by their ability to push their own boundaries and try new things. People at Stage Three will judge others based on their commitments and what they’re able to achieve. People at Stage Four judge others based on what they stand for and what they’ve chosen to live for.

LIFE STAGES AND WHAT TO DO ABOUT THEM

Transitions between the life stages are usually triggered by trauma or an extreme negative event in one’s life. A near-death experience. A divorce. A failed friendship or a death of a loved one.

Trauma causes us to step back and re-evaluate our deepest motivations and decisions. It allows us to reflect on whether our strategies to pursue happiness are actually working well or not.

 

What Gets Us Stuck

LIFE STAGES AND WHAT TO DO ABOUT THEM

 

The same thing gets us stuck at every stage: a sense of personal inadequacy.

 

People get stuck at Stage One because they always feel as though they are somehow flawed and different from others, so they put all of their effort into conforming into what those around them would like to see. No matter how much they do, they feel as though it is never enough.

LIFE STAGES AND WHAT TO DO ABOUT THEM

Stage Two people get stuck because they feel as though they should always be doing more, doing something better, doing something new and exciting, improving at something. But no matter how much they do, they feel as though it is never enough.

LIFE STAGES AND WHAT TO DO ABOUT THEM

Stage Three people get stuck because they feel as though they have not generated enough meaningful influence in the world, that they make a greater impact in the specific areas that they have committed themselves to. But no matter how much they do, they feel as though it is never enough.

LIFE STAGES AND WHAT TO DO ABOUT THEM

One could even argue that Stage Four people feel stuck because they feel insecure that their legacy will not last or make any significant impact on the future generations. They cling to it and hold onto it and promote it with every last gasping breath. But they never feel as though it is enough.

LIFE STAGES AND WHAT TO DO ABOUT THEM

The solution at each stage is then backwards. To move beyond Stage One, you must accept that you will never be enough for everybody all the time, and therefore you must make decisions for yourself.

To move beyond Stage Two, you must accept that you will never be capable of accomplishing everything you can dream and desire, and therefore you must zero in on what matters most and commit to it.

To move beyond Stage Three, you must realize that time and energy are limited, and therefore you must refocus your attention to helping others take over the meaningful projects you began.

To move beyond Stage Four, you must realize that change is inevitable, and that the influence of one person, no matter how great, no matter how powerful, no matter how meaningful, will eventually dissipate too.

 

And life will go on.

 

SAYONARA

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  3. Leina Hipoliti Leina

    February 28, 2017 at 10:39 am

    It’s a really nice article, i had to go through the first part before reading this one. God work Herie

  4. juliuskessy45617gmailcom

    February 28, 2017 at 11:51 am

    Such insightful, Kudos Herie!

  5. Pauline

    March 4, 2017 at 8:47 am

    Great work Herie

  6. Dilianny

    July 14, 2017 at 11:54 pm

    Great words

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HOLIDAY ACTIVITIES FOR ALL UNIVERSITY STUDENTS

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Holiday time ,

A time we have been looking forward to since school started! Blink and share this post if you can relate!

Fun holiday activities

I am a big pro-balance , i believe in late nights, early mornings and coffee but i also believe it is essential to lay back in the Bahamas and have someone bring you a Cool Mojito . So what do you do when you have a month or two of rest. Read On.
1.Rest
A bit Clichè right? But how many of us actually rest at least half of the time during the holiday?

While it is sometimes inevitable to reply that email, Attend that client, making time to take care of you, catch up on your favourite tv show or just sitting and breathing helps clear your brain and make you even more productive.

2. Learn a skill.

What a time to be Alive! Your next skill is literaly a few taps away. This skill can be a hobby you have been looking to get better at like sewing, singing, piano , cooking or something intergral in your career like history taking for new clinical rotation students or something you have wanted to do on the side( you have been talking about how you do not have time, and now Its here! ).

One of the founders of Afyatoon , an animation start-up that provides health education actually learnt how to animate during his summer holiday.

There are some things that are not taught in school and you are probably struggling with such as speaking in public , budgeting , dressing well, healthy living & more. Take time to train yourself on that.

3. Work on your side hustle
Balancing between studies and work is a challenge. Sometimes they are all demanding our time and energy. The holiday time therefore is a great time to focus on this thing , give it a mega push and this push will even save you the hustle when school starts.

 

4. Learn, explore and grow.
It is really eye-opening to learn a new thing or get to understand a certain topic . This can be a great time to do that. There is vast majority of knowledge and information on blogs, social media and in the actual world for you to learn .

Be curious, google , check out some you tube videos . But most of Enjoy your holiday .

 

What are you doing this holiday?

 

Twentiesco consultation doors are open! Book your consulation today and lets walk  this adulthood  journey together.

 

 

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HOW TO APPLY FOR OPPORTUNITIES AND ACTUALLY GET THEM

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If you are one amazing twenti who seeks out opportunities to learn or seek support for something you do , at some point you have to prove your worthiness of what you are applying or contesting for.

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4 Tips for successfull Business In Agriculture For Beginners..

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agribussiness sucess tips

I have always heard national leaders claim that Agriculture is the backbone of Tanzania. Infact I wrote a couple of essay discussing this same a few year back in secondary school.
However, I have seen more backs deformed, callous on their hands and accidents where you cultivated your leg instead of the land than I have seen these same people afford to treat any of these conditions.
I have also been hearing that farmers in the west are rich and unbothered.
But then do you think such farmers cultivate acres of land ,wait for rain (fingers crossed ) , uproot weeds, harvest and sell to the next buyer that can pay them something close to half their children’s school fees?
Agriculture is a pretty lucrative sector. And if you aim in these areas , you might make a fortune.

1.Quality
There is a big market we are not accessing in the western countries because of standard barriers. A large number of crops we produce are of a good enough quality. But what about the end products? Can they cross the Jk.Nyerere airport without causing a security shut down? Another issue that hinders these products is packaging. Poor packaging makes a product look cheap and not reliable.

2.Processing and Storage
Why do we pay these timewasters so much.
Because they process raw products. Turning sisal to .. and selling finished products has higher profit . . Plus how do you expect to make much of a profit when everyone is trying to sell the same thing before it rots. These products need to be stored well too so that their value stays and can be sold even after the season is over.

Also Read: PACKAGING IS A PART OF BRANDING.

FAST MONEY IDEAS AND NOT TOO FAST

3.WHAT WOULD YOU FIND IN DOHA THAT IS IN KHARTOUM. ?
What is trending?
If you want to have a large market, go for products that are widely used in different places and some trending crops. Think Chia seeds, strawberries , pepper etc.

You can also contact restaurants for tenders so you have a market right away.
Let me let you in on a little secret a farmer told me.You do not need acres to farm. A green house is a perfect way to produce extremely quality crops that could sell in Antarctica for a million dollars . There is also an option of renting a farm .
That’s it fellaz ,As this weather moves you to cultivate other people, may you consider trying out crops. This is because agribusiness is worth investing in although it has not succeed to be as attractive as network marketing.

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