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OPTION B : FACING ADVERSITY , BUILDING RESILIENCE AND FINDING JOY

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LESSONS FROM OPTION B

She said that her great success (she is the chief operating officer of Facebook, which has made her a billionaire) would have been impossible without the unwavering support of her husband. Now, in the cruelest way, she had lost him.
Slowly the fog began to lift. She found she had something useful to offer at a meeting; she got the children through their first birthdays without their father; she began to have one O.K. day and then another. She made it through a year, all of the “milestone days” had passed and something began to revive within her. Grief is the final act of love, and recovery from it is the necessary betrayal on which the future depends. There is only this one life, and we are the ones who are here to live it.

THE NEW YORK TIMES

Option B is a book about overcoming and growing up and out of hardships. While Sheryl thought she had everything going well from the book Lean in , Life just made a hairpin turn. Sheryl shares how she survived such a tragedy and how different people faced different losses, trauma and other painful experiences and grew thicker skin through it.

1.You do not want to be the none question asking friend

With the non question asking friend you will go through a traumatic experience or have your leg amputated and they will just ask you about the weather or make a joke and never talk about what you just went through , how you feeling , what is the way forward or how are you handling it. Sheryl talks about how she experienced the non question asking friends and how she was also one of them .After losing her husband in a heart attack ,some of her coworkers would just talk to her about the weather like nothing happened and that sucked because while she was afraid of constantly just talking to people about her loss she also wanted her close people to know what she was going through or how it was .

Sometimes we are afraid of talking about things like that thinking that we are going to remind people of things like that but reality is they always remember , the best you can do is be an ear to listen to that because sometimes all we need is to just talk about it . Sheryl went onto to ask her husband’s roommate during a get together that his husband used to have with his college roommates in every year.This man was diagnosed with cancer . she took the courage to ask him how he was dealing with it because he was becoming less and less capable of working and at some point he would have to quit his job and and after asking him how he really was .he went down and told her his fears and concerns. I think we should be courageous enough to do that sometimes because it shows that were concerned.And sometimes while we cannot fix anything , listening and being there through out says I’m here I’m aware of what you’re going through and I will sit with you through this.

  1. Encourage truth-telling and honest feedback at work .
    The book is about building resilience and finding the way forward after a failure .Sheryl also talks about failures at work and how truth-telling can help us fix these failures and prevent them from re happening or from happening in the first place . We often see somethings coming . When that co worker has been not concentrating enough at work because of certain problems , soon enough the sales might go down.They WILL go down. And before thisvhappens there is a window period for us to address such an issue and fix it . Apart from preventing these things from happening, we can also encourage each other to grow from a loss or a setback by pushing each other to our best performances.

3.There is posttraumatic growth.

As as common as post traumatic disorder syndrome(PTSD) is posttraumatic growth is even more common but RARELY spoken of. Of all the people who face traumatic events at some point in their lives , its only 15 percent that develop PTSD , more than 50% of these people experience what sheryl calls post traumatic growth. And its a decision they make. Post traumatic growth comes in different ways such as finding a new meaning in life. Most traumatic events involve near death experiences . It is moments like these that remind you of what a beautiful thing life is and show you how much you have been taking for granted .Instead of focusing on the post traumatic disorder syndrome it is great to focus on the positive growth and encourage it . You cannot remain the same and if you can choose growth after trauma, Do. Sheryl gives examples of so many people who went on and became the best of themselves that they could never have become if it weren’t for this wake up call in their life.

  1. Shared hope
    Sheryl narrates about the Uruguay rugby players who were in airplane crash .

On the Andes mountains.😢

Most of these players survived because they had shared hope and this was because they had built a bond along the way as a team. And while some didnt survive they also didnt give in to despair . Along the way they built resilience and were able to overcome the hardships in such adverse conditions.

Till next time.

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  1. forever_herie

    February 23, 2018 at 3:30 pm

    You are welcome. Same here .

  2. Rodney

    February 23, 2018 at 4:13 pm

    It is inspiring a lot, there a many moments of life in which we have to say its okay en move on….thank you very much for the writting

  3. suley

    February 24, 2018 at 12:18 am

    You dont cease to amaze! Endiwooooooo

  4. chally361

    February 24, 2018 at 2:05 am

    Feeling wat am going through kinda friend is a friend indeed. A friend we should be.

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HOLIDAY ACTIVITIES FOR ALL UNIVERSITY STUDENTS

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Holiday time ,

A time we have been looking forward to since school started! Blink and share this post if you can relate!

Fun holiday activities

I am a big pro-balance , i believe in late nights, early mornings and coffee but i also believe it is essential to lay back in the Bahamas and have someone bring you a Cool Mojito . So what do you do when you have a month or two of rest. Read On.
1.Rest
A bit Clichè right? But how many of us actually rest at least half of the time during the holiday?

While it is sometimes inevitable to reply that email, Attend that client, making time to take care of you, catch up on your favourite tv show or just sitting and breathing helps clear your brain and make you even more productive.

2. Learn a skill.

What a time to be Alive! Your next skill is literaly a few taps away. This skill can be a hobby you have been looking to get better at like sewing, singing, piano , cooking or something intergral in your career like history taking for new clinical rotation students or something you have wanted to do on the side( you have been talking about how you do not have time, and now Its here! ).

One of the founders of Afyatoon , an animation start-up that provides health education actually learnt how to animate during his summer holiday.

There are some things that are not taught in school and you are probably struggling with such as speaking in public , budgeting , dressing well, healthy living & more. Take time to train yourself on that.

3. Work on your side hustle
Balancing between studies and work is a challenge. Sometimes they are all demanding our time and energy. The holiday time therefore is a great time to focus on this thing , give it a mega push and this push will even save you the hustle when school starts.

 

4. Learn, explore and grow.
It is really eye-opening to learn a new thing or get to understand a certain topic . This can be a great time to do that. There is vast majority of knowledge and information on blogs, social media and in the actual world for you to learn .

Be curious, google , check out some you tube videos . But most of Enjoy your holiday .

 

What are you doing this holiday?

 

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HOW TO APPLY FOR OPPORTUNITIES AND ACTUALLY GET THEM

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If you are one amazing twenti who seeks out opportunities to learn or seek support for something you do , at some point you have to prove your worthiness of what you are applying or contesting for.

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4 Tips for successfull Business In Agriculture For Beginners..

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agribussiness sucess tips

I have always heard national leaders claim that Agriculture is the backbone of Tanzania. Infact I wrote a couple of essay discussing this same a few year back in secondary school.
However, I have seen more backs deformed, callous on their hands and accidents where you cultivated your leg instead of the land than I have seen these same people afford to treat any of these conditions.
I have also been hearing that farmers in the west are rich and unbothered.
But then do you think such farmers cultivate acres of land ,wait for rain (fingers crossed ) , uproot weeds, harvest and sell to the next buyer that can pay them something close to half their children’s school fees?
Agriculture is a pretty lucrative sector. And if you aim in these areas , you might make a fortune.

1.Quality
There is a big market we are not accessing in the western countries because of standard barriers. A large number of crops we produce are of a good enough quality. But what about the end products? Can they cross the Jk.Nyerere airport without causing a security shut down? Another issue that hinders these products is packaging. Poor packaging makes a product look cheap and not reliable.

2.Processing and Storage
Why do we pay these timewasters so much.
Because they process raw products. Turning sisal to .. and selling finished products has higher profit . . Plus how do you expect to make much of a profit when everyone is trying to sell the same thing before it rots. These products need to be stored well too so that their value stays and can be sold even after the season is over.

Also Read: PACKAGING IS A PART OF BRANDING.

FAST MONEY IDEAS AND NOT TOO FAST

3.WHAT WOULD YOU FIND IN DOHA THAT IS IN KHARTOUM. ?
What is trending?
If you want to have a large market, go for products that are widely used in different places and some trending crops. Think Chia seeds, strawberries , pepper etc.

You can also contact restaurants for tenders so you have a market right away.
Let me let you in on a little secret a farmer told me.You do not need acres to farm. A green house is a perfect way to produce extremely quality crops that could sell in Antarctica for a million dollars . There is also an option of renting a farm .
That’s it fellaz ,As this weather moves you to cultivate other people, may you consider trying out crops. This is because agribusiness is worth investing in although it has not succeed to be as attractive as network marketing.

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