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OPTION B : FACING ADVERSITY , BUILDING RESILIENCE AND FINDING JOY

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LESSONS FROM OPTION B

She said that her great success (she is the chief operating officer of Facebook, which has made her a billionaire) would have been impossible without the unwavering support of her husband. Now, in the cruelest way, she had lost him.
Slowly the fog began to lift. She found she had something useful to offer at a meeting; she got the children through their first birthdays without their father; she began to have one O.K. day and then another. She made it through a year, all of the “milestone days” had passed and something began to revive within her. Grief is the final act of love, and recovery from it is the necessary betrayal on which the future depends. There is only this one life, and we are the ones who are here to live it.

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Option B is a book about overcoming and growing up and out of hardships. While Sheryl thought she had everything going well from the book Lean in , Life just made a hairpin turn. Sheryl shares how she survived such a tragedy and how different people faced different losses, trauma and other painful experiences and grew thicker skin through it.

1.You do not want to be the none question asking friend

With the non question asking friend you will go through a traumatic experience or have your leg amputated and they will just ask you about the weather or make a joke and never talk about what you just went through , how you feeling , what is the way forward or how are you handling it. Sheryl talks about how she experienced the non question asking friends and how she was also one of them .After losing her husband in a heart attack ,some of her coworkers would just talk to her about the weather like nothing happened and that sucked because while she was afraid of constantly just talking to people about her loss she also wanted her close people to know what she was going through or how it was .

Sometimes we are afraid of talking about things like that thinking that we are going to remind people of things like that but reality is they always remember , the best you can do is be an ear to listen to that because sometimes all we need is to just talk about it . Sheryl went onto to ask her husband’s roommate during a get together that his husband used to have with his college roommates in every year.This man was diagnosed with cancer . she took the courage to ask him how he was dealing with it because he was becoming less and less capable of working and at some point he would have to quit his job and and after asking him how he really was .he went down and told her his fears and concerns. I think we should be courageous enough to do that sometimes because it shows that were concerned.And sometimes while we cannot fix anything , listening and being there through out says I’m here I’m aware of what you’re going through and I will sit with you through this.

  1. Encourage truth-telling and honest feedback at work .
    The book is about building resilience and finding the way forward after a failure .Sheryl also talks about failures at work and how truth-telling can help us fix these failures and prevent them from re happening or from happening in the first place . We often see somethings coming . When that co worker has been not concentrating enough at work because of certain problems , soon enough the sales might go down.They WILL go down. And before thisvhappens there is a window period for us to address such an issue and fix it . Apart from preventing these things from happening, we can also encourage each other to grow from a loss or a setback by pushing each other to our best performances.

3.There is posttraumatic growth.

As as common as post traumatic disorder syndrome(PTSD) is posttraumatic growth is even more common but RARELY spoken of. Of all the people who face traumatic events at some point in their lives , its only 15 percent that develop PTSD , more than 50% of these people experience what sheryl calls post traumatic growth. And its a decision they make. Post traumatic growth comes in different ways such as finding a new meaning in life. Most traumatic events involve near death experiences . It is moments like these that remind you of what a beautiful thing life is and show you how much you have been taking for granted .Instead of focusing on the post traumatic disorder syndrome it is great to focus on the positive growth and encourage it . You cannot remain the same and if you can choose growth after trauma, Do. Sheryl gives examples of so many people who went on and became the best of themselves that they could never have become if it weren’t for this wake up call in their life.

  1. Shared hope
    Sheryl narrates about the Uruguay rugby players who were in airplane crash .

On the Andes mountains.😢

Most of these players survived because they had shared hope and this was because they had built a bond along the way as a team. And while some didnt survive they also didnt give in to despair . Along the way they built resilience and were able to overcome the hardships in such adverse conditions.

Till next time.

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5 Comments

  1. forever_herie

    February 23, 2018 at 3:30 pm

    You are welcome. Same here .

  2. Rodney

    February 23, 2018 at 4:13 pm

    It is inspiring a lot, there a many moments of life in which we have to say its okay en move on….thank you very much for the writting

  3. suley

    February 24, 2018 at 12:18 am

    You dont cease to amaze! Endiwooooooo

  4. chally361

    February 24, 2018 at 2:05 am

    Feeling wat am going through kinda friend is a friend indeed. A friend we should be.

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HERE IS THE EASIEST WAY TO PLAN AND UNDERSTAND YOUR BUSINESS

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Business model canvas!! Sounds like nuclear physics doesn’t it?
It isn’t.
A business model canvas is a tool used by businesses to project what their business is all about briefly.
In contrast to business plan, a business model canvas is so brief .
At the end of this article, there is a template attached, feel free to use it after you have read this article .
Now remember the way you create a business model canvas is very systematic . We have numbered this template to make it a ride on a steep slope.

1. Customer Segments
( WHO ARE YOU TARGETING) Think of your business, very few ( if there are at all) businesses target everyone. Describe your customer. Who are they? What do they want? What do they like?
How old are they?

2.Value proposition
( WHAT IS YOUR PRODUCT OFFERING THEM)
Say you are a coffee shop. Coffee is coffee. If I sell mine packed in an ordinary cup and yours is in a instagram worthy cup. We know why millenials would buy from you.
The Unique value is not always tangible.
Sometimes it is a cause. If part of your profit goes to charity, people may use it for that sake.

3.Channels
Now that you know who you are trying to sell to and what is special about your product .How are you going to get to them ?
Instagram? A physical shop? An event?
Depending on what they do, find out the different ways they can access your product.

4.Customer relationships
To gain a customer is one thing . To keep a customer is a whole different entity. There are shops you go to buy something and the way a seller accomodates you, focuses on making sure you leave satisfied and not just selling you a product gets you hooked. These are the shops people go back to and tell all their friends about.

5. Revenue sources
What are your customers going to pay for? These are the different services or goods you can offer. Say you sell clothes , you could also charge for styling advice or makeover. How can your premises generate you money as well? Can your office be rented fr a day or a week or more?
Exhaust the different ways you can access money and find out ways that match your cause. For example safe space doubles as a women platform and a women co working space .

6.Key Activities
These are the things you need to do . If you are running a website, you need things like hosting, writing, photography etc.. . Include everything you have to do for your business to run and

7.Key Resources
Determine what you need to get the activities done. Funds? Space? Time? People?

8.Key partners
Patnering is the new discount. You do not need to have everything. But you can out source what you have and use it to negotiate.
Patnerships helps cut cost and share audience .

9. Cost structure
Now that you know what you will need to run the business, areas you can find partners in , list the things you will incur cost in.

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HOLIDAY ACTIVITIES FOR ALL UNIVERSITY STUDENTS

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Holiday time ,

A time we have been looking forward to since school started! Blink and share this post if you can relate!

Fun holiday activities

I am a big pro-balance , i believe in late nights, early mornings and coffee but i also believe it is essential to lay back in the Bahamas and have someone bring you a Cool Mojito . So what do you do when you have a month or two of rest. Read On.
1.Rest
A bit Clichè right? But how many of us actually rest at least half of the time during the holiday?

While it is sometimes inevitable to reply that email, Attend that client, making time to take care of you, catch up on your favourite tv show or just sitting and breathing helps clear your brain and make you even more productive.

2. Learn a skill.

What a time to be Alive! Your next skill is literaly a few taps away. This skill can be a hobby you have been looking to get better at like sewing, singing, piano , cooking or something intergral in your career like history taking for new clinical rotation students or something you have wanted to do on the side( you have been talking about how you do not have time, and now Its here! ).

One of the founders of Afyatoon , an animation start-up that provides health education actually learnt how to animate during his summer holiday.

There are some things that are not taught in school and you are probably struggling with such as speaking in public , budgeting , dressing well, healthy living & more. Take time to train yourself on that.

3. Work on your side hustle
Balancing between studies and work is a challenge. Sometimes they are all demanding our time and energy. The holiday time therefore is a great time to focus on this thing , give it a mega push and this push will even save you the hustle when school starts.

 

4. Learn, explore and grow.
It is really eye-opening to learn a new thing or get to understand a certain topic . This can be a great time to do that. There is vast majority of knowledge and information on blogs, social media and in the actual world for you to learn .

Be curious, google , check out some you tube videos . But most of Enjoy your holiday .

 

What are you doing this holiday?

 

Twentiesco consultation doors are open! Book your consulation today and lets walk  this adulthood  journey together.

 

 

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HOW TO APPLY FOR OPPORTUNITIES AND ACTUALLY GET THEM

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If you are one amazing twenti who seeks out opportunities to learn or seek support for something you do , at some point you have to prove your worthiness of what you are applying or contesting for.

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