My sister would ask me about my friends from time to time. At that time, I knew she was doing what any other sister would do. But now I think I am getting a bigger picture.

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As requested by one of the blog readers, today we are going to be discussing the influence of friends on our personal development, actions and beliefs.



Strong willed friends increase your self-control.

Spending time with disciplined friends may influence you to do stuff you would normally put off due to laziness such as going to the gym or being organized.

People with fewer friends have in adequate social experience.

Now this is self-explanatory,  I can say that each person comes with a different package. Having more friends allows you to experience a vast amount of good experiences. Therefore, fewer friends equals fewer windows (seeing life from a different perspective)

Too many social media connections increase stress levels.

When it comes to social media, “the more the merrier” may not be the best approach. A report from the University of Edinburgh Business School says that more Facebook friends means more stress. Researchers linked an abundance of social media connections to increased anxiety about offending people.


The increased stress stemmed from people’s desire to present a version of themselves that was acceptable to all their social media contacts. While your college buddies may enjoy publicly discussing that “weekend in Mbudya,” your parents and co-workers may be less than impressed by those stories. So before you begin adding people to your social circle, remember the potential downside to having too many friends on social media.


The closer friends one has the more longevity the person has too. This is because it lowers the risk of diseases by reducing blood pressure, heart rate and cholesterol

Friends also influence your choices, beliefs, self-confidence, behavior and emotions.

Beliefs can be changed if they were constantly challenged and if new beliefs were constantly repeated. Lots of my friends had a pessimistic view of the job market before they even had the chance to interact with it. This pessimistic view came from the continues programming they received from their friends in the form of suggestions that are repeated over and over such as “it’s extremely hard to find a job these days”

Friends Alter the perception of each other, if the majority of a group thinks that a person is arrogant or snobbish then this belief will be transferred to the whole group. Since believing that someone is treating you in a bad way might be interpreted as a sign that shows that you are not that worthy then such a belief might affect your self-confidence badly.

An experiment has shown that a monkey that never feared snakes started to fear them when it saw the anxious response of another monkey that feared them! This means that watching someone who is feeling afraid, anxious or helpless could teach you how to be like him.


Your friends can infect you with bad emotions: Why do you think you experience different emotions while watching a movie? Simply because the facial expressions of actor’s transfers to you their emotional states and the same happens with your friends. Your sad friend might make you feel sad and your depressed friend can let you become depressed on the long term.

Your likely to start acting like the people you surround yourself with. Pick friends who make poor choices, and you could get dragged down fast. But, if you choose friends who inspire and challenge you to become better, you’ll increase your chances of reaching your goals.


Having said that. I think we should ask ourselves are our friends making us better?

Or a less selfish question

Are we making our friends better?

You may not have to change your friends but what you must do is to become conscious of the facts that were mentioned in this article and to filter everything that you hear or see.


Don’t accept your friends’ view of the world, their beliefs or their opinions without proper realistic filtration. That would be enough to protect you

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