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LEARNING TO ACCEPT CRITICISM AS A WRITER

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Hello , This is one of the final posts of my overcoming fear series. These are testimonies from different people. Ride Along

 

Before I ever wrote a single word for anyone outside of my immediate family to read, I had a tremendous, debilitating fear of failing. In fact, I was afraid of just about anything. One day, for no reason at all, and with no explanation, I realized that I was wasting my life being afraid of things that did not matter.

I waited a long time in my life to write because I was afraid people would reject my work. I was afraid people would ignore it, mock me, or even worse.

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I learned recently though, that if we live our lives afraid we miss out on freedom. For me, the key to overcoming fear was to take immediate action. I am not suggesting foolish action, but, take this story for example:

If you were faced with having to cross a bridge to get to your family or other loved ones, what would you do?

Now, imagine the bridge to be so high off the ground that the people at the bottom look like small dots.

Or, imagine the danger below the bridge to be imminent death should you fall from it.

Adding to this, imagine the bridge having a slight sway in it, and with every step, the entire bridge moves. How do you cross the bridge?

You run.

You sprint.

You tell fear to jump off the bridge and you get to your family.

Fear can paralyze us if we allow it to. I used to be afraid of encouraging others with my words until I realized that my words have tremendous power. All of our words have tremendous power, not just mine.

I overcame fear by taking the exact action I was afraid of taking. Speaking in front of people? Yes, that is a fear of mine. I do it anyway. Meeting new people? Yep. That’s another one.

Maybe you are afraid to take a step towards your goal. Maybe you are afraid to forgive someone. Maybe you are afraid of forgiving yourself.

Fear can paralyze you and rob you of experiencing the fullness of life.

What if I told you, you have more than enough power to overcome fear?

What fear(s) do you face? What makes you tremble?

Overcome it by taking action. Run. Sprint. Cross your bridge and enjoy your life!

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HOLIDAY ACTIVITIES FOR ALL UNIVERSITY STUDENTS

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Holiday time ,

A time we have been looking forward to since school started! Blink and share this post if you can relate!

Fun holiday activities

I am a big pro-balance , i believe in late nights, early mornings and coffee but i also believe it is essential to lay back in the Bahamas and have someone bring you a Cool Mojito . So what do you do when you have a month or two of rest. Read On.
1.Rest
A bit Clichè right? But how many of us actually rest at least half of the time during the holiday?

While it is sometimes inevitable to reply that email, Attend that client, making time to take care of you, catch up on your favourite tv show or just sitting and breathing helps clear your brain and make you even more productive.

2. Learn a skill.

What a time to be Alive! Your next skill is literaly a few taps away. This skill can be a hobby you have been looking to get better at like sewing, singing, piano , cooking or something intergral in your career like history taking for new clinical rotation students or something you have wanted to do on the side( you have been talking about how you do not have time, and now Its here! ).

One of the founders of Afyatoon , an animation start-up that provides health education actually learnt how to animate during his summer holiday.

There are some things that are not taught in school and you are probably struggling with such as speaking in public , budgeting , dressing well, healthy living & more. Take time to train yourself on that.

3. Work on your side hustle
Balancing between studies and work is a challenge. Sometimes they are all demanding our time and energy. The holiday time therefore is a great time to focus on this thing , give it a mega push and this push will even save you the hustle when school starts.

 

4. Learn, explore and grow.
It is really eye-opening to learn a new thing or get to understand a certain topic . This can be a great time to do that. There is vast majority of knowledge and information on blogs, social media and in the actual world for you to learn .

Be curious, google , check out some you tube videos . But most of Enjoy your holiday .

 

What are you doing this holiday?

 

Twentiesco consultation doors are open! Book your consulation today and lets walk  this adulthood  journey together.

 

 

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ASK TWENTIES

LOSING MY REPUTATION TO AN ADDICTION;LESSONS IN MY TWENTIES

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You know the saying it takes twenty years to build a reputation and five minutes to destroy it, the sad truth about this is it is TRUE.
What if I told you am a doctor well-loved by my patients, have saved lives several times. The first image you will have of me is a well-rounded and respectable man. Well that was me a few years ago. I was the man. I did everything right, straight As, focused, well-mannered. Everyone who knew me wanted to carry me around like a trophy. Currently, I am a recovering alcoholic, I have practically no friends, colleagues barely answer my calls, but it wasn’t always like that, a decade ago.

alcohol addiction in my twenties
One of the most important lessons you will learn in your twenties is we all have our demons. Some it’s an ex who wronged us, others its sex, mine well was alcohol and an ex of course. For most of us, our proper relationships begin at our late teenage years and twenties.

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I met a lady a few years back and unlike the fairy tales,It did not last. Alcohol was my demon and I turned to it as a coping mechanism. I drank so much when my relationship crumbled, I lost a lot of friends and let family members down.
In one year my reputation changed from a hardworking guy to an alcoholic failure. The thing is bad reputations stick more than good ones, I haven’t touched a drink in more than two years, but I still get labeled as such.

Am turned 30 this year, I feel like my twenties have flown by so fast and, yet I have changed and grown a lot. I have had my share of bad days, weeks and months and am I yet to have more. I am aware that I need to develop my coping skills and speak or deal with what bothers me instead of finding unhealthy and destructive coping mechanisms.

So, here’s my take from it all.
Mistakes are a significant part of our twenties and a better off made NOW. There are less people that might be affected by you deciding to use all your money betting on Croatia for a good number of us.

In your twenties learn to reach out to a falling friend. So many times, we see friends failing and we never say a word. Speaking to our circle of support in times of highs and obviously takes a big load of our minds and theirs too.

friendship in alcohol addiction
Success might take twenty years to achieve, don’t feel outdone. Social media is like a highlight reel of or lives. We are not seeing a great deal of the backstage to which we compare ours with.

Another thing is your reputation will NEVER recover, but its alright. People will give you a second chance, they will support you, but will remind you of your faults,  Accept your faults learn what happened has happened.

So, what should you do? Simple, wear your flaws and do not be ashamed of your struggles. Do not try to convince people your flaws aren’t a part of you. Life gets easier when you are open, it might seem tough, but you will cope.

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HOW TO APPLY FOR OPPORTUNITIES AND ACTUALLY GET THEM

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If you are one amazing twenti who seeks out opportunities to learn or seek support for something you do , at some point you have to prove your worthiness of what you are applying or contesting for.

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