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HATUA NNE ZA MAISHA KATIKA MAISHA YA MWANADAMU

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Habari yako ,Ni matumaini yangu kuwa u mzima wa afya. Wiki hii nakuletea hatua nne kuu katika maisha ya Binadamu . Karibu na asante kwa kusoma blog hii.

  1. UIGAJI

Katika hatua hii ya kwanza sisi ni wanyonge, hatuwezi kuzungumza, kutembea au kujilisha wenyewe. Sisi hukopi kutoka kwa wazazi wetu au walezi wetu. Watu wazima katika jamii inayotuzunguka hutusaidia  kufanya maamuzi na kuchukua hatua wenyewe.

Lakini baadhi ya watu wazima na wanajamii inayotuzunguka hutuadhibu kwa uhuru wetu. Hawana msaada katika  maamuzi yetu. Na kwa hiyo hatuwezi kuendeleza uhuru huo. Hivyo tunabaki tukiwaiga wale walio karibu nasi, bila kukoma kujaribu kuwaridhisha  wote ili tukubalike

Sisi pia hujifunza kuishi katika jamii  tukifanya  shughuli zetu za kila siku. Uigaji huu unaendelea mpaka ujana au mwanzo wa utu uzima . Kwa baadhi ya watu, inaweza kuendelea hadi anapokuwa mtu mzima. Wachache huamka siku moja wakiwa na miaka 45 na  kutambua kuwa hawakuwahi kuishi kwa ajili yao wenyewe huku wakishangaa miaka imeenda wapi.

LIFE STAGES AND WHAT TO DO ABOUT THEM

Katika hatua hii  kuna kutafuta  uthibitisho. Hamna misingi binafsi wala uhuru. Katika hatua hii tunajifunza  viwango vya jamii na matarajio lakini ni lazima pia kujifunza kutenda licha ya viwango na matarajio hayo. Ni lazima pia kujenga  uwezo wa kutenda na kufikiri  wenyewe.

  1. Kujitambua

Katika hatua hii sisi hujifunza utofauti wetu. Tunaanza kufanya maamuzi na kujipima wenyewe. Hii inahusisha makossa, kesi na majaribio, kishi katika maeneo mapya na kukutana na watu wapya.

Baadhi ya mambo haya huenda vizuri na mengine vibaya. Ni vizuri kushikilia yale mazuri na kusonga mbele. Hatua hii huendelea mpaka tunapokutana na kikomo. Ni vizuri hatua hii ikianza mapema .

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Tunapokaribia mwisho  wa hatua hii, tunagundua mambo ambayo ni mabaya  na ambayo ni mazuri kwa muda. Mambo kama ngono, kusafiri na kunywa. Hii hatua huendelea mpaka miaka ya thelathini.

KUMBUKA

Baadhi ya watu ni hukwama katika hatua hii

Kufikia kikomo ni muhimu kwa sababu ni lazima hatimaye  kutambua kwamba wakati wako katika dunia hii ni mdogo na unapaswa kututumia kwenye mambo muhimu zaidi. Ni muhimu kutambua kwamba kama unaweza kufanya kitu, haina maana unapaswa kufanya hivyo. Kutambua kwamba kwa sababu tu wewe ni kama watu fulani haina maana unapaswa kuwa pamoja nao. Pia kutambua pia kwamba kuna gharama kwa kila kitu hivyo huwezi kuwa na yote.

Kuna baadhi ya watu ambao kamwe hawajiruhusu kufikia kikomo- ama kwa sababu wanakataa kukubali makosa yao, au kwa sababu ya kujiaminisha kwamba hawana kikomo .Watu hukwama katika hatua ya pili.

Hawa ni wale ambao wana miaka  38 na wanaishi na wazazi wao bila kuingiza  fedha yoyote baada ya miaka 15 ya kujaribu. Hawa ni watu ambao hawawezi kukaa katika uhusiano wa muda mrefu kwa sababu daima kuna mtu bora Zaidi.

Mimi nipo katika hatua ya pili.  Napenda kujua katika comments  jinsi hatua hii inavyoenda  au ilivyoenda kwako .

  1. kujitoa

Watu wengi kuacha burudani ,marafiki na shughuli zisizo na maana.  Kile unachokiacha nyuma,  ndicho watu watakumbuka nacho. Utaiacha vipi dunia tofauti na ulivyoikuta?

 

Kwa kawaida hatua ya tatu ujumla hudumu kutoka miaka ya thelathini mpaka mtu anapofikia umri wa kustaafu.

Watu ambao hubaki katika hatua hii hutaka Zaidi na Zaidi. Hutamani kuzuia asili au kusimamisha muda na huendelea mpaka miaka ya sabini na themanini.

  1. Urithi

Hatua hii inahusisha kufanya  yale ambayo umeshayafanya kupitia kushauri na kufundisha miradi yako  kwa wale walio chini yako.

Una uwezo mkubwa wa kujitawala katika hatua hii.

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Hatua Nne ni muhimu kisaikolojia kwa sababu kama binadamu, tuna haja ya kuhisi  kwamba maisha yetu yalikuwa na maana.

KUMBUKA

Hatua hizi hutokea tofauti kwa kila mtu . Pia kuna mabadiliko ambayo hutokea unapohama kutoka hatua moja kwenda nyingine.

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HOLIDAY ACTIVITIES FOR ALL UNIVERSITY STUDENTS

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Holiday time ,

A time we have been looking forward to since school started! Blink and share this post if you can relate!

Fun holiday activities

I am a big pro-balance , i believe in late nights, early mornings and coffee but i also believe it is essential to lay back in the Bahamas and have someone bring you a Cool Mojito . So what do you do when you have a month or two of rest. Read On.
1.Rest
A bit Clichè right? But how many of us actually rest at least half of the time during the holiday?

While it is sometimes inevitable to reply that email, Attend that client, making time to take care of you, catch up on your favourite tv show or just sitting and breathing helps clear your brain and make you even more productive.

2. Learn a skill.

What a time to be Alive! Your next skill is literaly a few taps away. This skill can be a hobby you have been looking to get better at like sewing, singing, piano , cooking or something intergral in your career like history taking for new clinical rotation students or something you have wanted to do on the side( you have been talking about how you do not have time, and now Its here! ).

One of the founders of Afyatoon , an animation start-up that provides health education actually learnt how to animate during his summer holiday.

There are some things that are not taught in school and you are probably struggling with such as speaking in public , budgeting , dressing well, healthy living & more. Take time to train yourself on that.

3. Work on your side hustle
Balancing between studies and work is a challenge. Sometimes they are all demanding our time and energy. The holiday time therefore is a great time to focus on this thing , give it a mega push and this push will even save you the hustle when school starts.

 

4. Learn, explore and grow.
It is really eye-opening to learn a new thing or get to understand a certain topic . This can be a great time to do that. There is vast majority of knowledge and information on blogs, social media and in the actual world for you to learn .

Be curious, google , check out some you tube videos . But most of Enjoy your holiday .

 

What are you doing this holiday?

 

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ASK TWENTIES

LOSING MY REPUTATION TO AN ADDICTION;LESSONS IN MY TWENTIES

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You know the saying it takes twenty years to build a reputation and five minutes to destroy it, the sad truth about this is it is TRUE.
What if I told you am a doctor well-loved by my patients, have saved lives several times. The first image you will have of me is a well-rounded and respectable man. Well that was me a few years ago. I was the man. I did everything right, straight As, focused, well-mannered. Everyone who knew me wanted to carry me around like a trophy. Currently, I am a recovering alcoholic, I have practically no friends, colleagues barely answer my calls, but it wasn’t always like that, a decade ago.

alcohol addiction in my twenties
One of the most important lessons you will learn in your twenties is we all have our demons. Some it’s an ex who wronged us, others its sex, mine well was alcohol and an ex of course. For most of us, our proper relationships begin at our late teenage years and twenties.

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I met a lady a few years back and unlike the fairy tales,It did not last. Alcohol was my demon and I turned to it as a coping mechanism. I drank so much when my relationship crumbled, I lost a lot of friends and let family members down.
In one year my reputation changed from a hardworking guy to an alcoholic failure. The thing is bad reputations stick more than good ones, I haven’t touched a drink in more than two years, but I still get labeled as such.

Am turned 30 this year, I feel like my twenties have flown by so fast and, yet I have changed and grown a lot. I have had my share of bad days, weeks and months and am I yet to have more. I am aware that I need to develop my coping skills and speak or deal with what bothers me instead of finding unhealthy and destructive coping mechanisms.

So, here’s my take from it all.
Mistakes are a significant part of our twenties and a better off made NOW. There are less people that might be affected by you deciding to use all your money betting on Croatia for a good number of us.

In your twenties learn to reach out to a falling friend. So many times, we see friends failing and we never say a word. Speaking to our circle of support in times of highs and obviously takes a big load of our minds and theirs too.

friendship in alcohol addiction
Success might take twenty years to achieve, don’t feel outdone. Social media is like a highlight reel of or lives. We are not seeing a great deal of the backstage to which we compare ours with.

Another thing is your reputation will NEVER recover, but its alright. People will give you a second chance, they will support you, but will remind you of your faults,  Accept your faults learn what happened has happened.

So, what should you do? Simple, wear your flaws and do not be ashamed of your struggles. Do not try to convince people your flaws aren’t a part of you. Life gets easier when you are open, it might seem tough, but you will cope.

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ASK TWENTIES

HOW TO APPLY FOR OPPORTUNITIES AND ACTUALLY GET THEM

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If you are one amazing twenti who seeks out opportunities to learn or seek support for something you do , at some point you have to prove your worthiness of what you are applying or contesting for.

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