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HOW TO AVOID MISERABLE RELATIONSHIPS IN THIS HOOKUP CULTURE

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​Music starts playing like the end of a sad movie.Its the kind of ending you don’t really want to see. Because it’s tragedy and it’ll only bring you down. Now you won’t know what to be without seeing them around. We both know it’s never simple never easy,neither a clean break and no one there to save you because they’re the only thing you  know like the back of your hand…

Probably,the grand question is Why 20s?

Well,maybe it’s the era when blood gets too hot in your veins and you can’t help it rather than falling without  even taking a rain-check

maybe its the time when you hold that deadly viper without the holy Spirit in your mind..

Maybe, it’s the moment you decide to sail on without taking into account of the tides…

I don’t have a grand answer to the question and i doubt if you do too however,love is not about the materials you gift each other..I mean, places you go,these are just complimentary things on your love life. To my knowledge, it’s about the quality time you invest on each other to make a curve on each one’s mouth,butterflies on tummies and racing hearts falling for each other more and more.

Today’s relationships are like Geico commercials or state farm ads on every page of  the internet..show off on social media! Just be ware what you post is wise and not due to peer influence but the love burning in you,and keep in mind that your relationship is for two and not for all,and so for some things which you talk and share together should remain between you,its best to be conservative sometimes than to watch urself be the next Peter pan.

So,people..you gotta be true believers,take it nice and slow..watch your step! because I can tell you them doctors don’t have a pill for whatever will make your love ill. Don’t let the sun get too high,sky too blue,drink too cold to be thinking about them!On top of all,pray for it! Prayer is the ultimate powerful communication to God!

Love! Oh love! What a blessed thing! Say it loud and make it clear today. Cheers!
Choices ‘17

 

By Catherine Ngallo

Catengallo@gmail.com

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HOW TO SPOT YOUR TYPE INSTANTLY

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What kind of a patner do you want?

We often respond to this question by saying,

kind, self motivated , good looking , supportive and more.

When we however meet such people , we may not want them for us.

Sometimes you come to learn this so much later in a relationship.

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This is because the things we mention are usually whats not whos.

They are what the patner is . Not who the patner is.

It is the whos that keep relationships not whats.

And to know who you want , you first should know who you are.

So how do yo know from the begining that this person is your type?
Here are three musts to check

1. CORE ESSENTIALS [things , you cannot tolerate . AT ALL.]
These things instantly tell you who is not for you.

Core essential are red flags that show you that he is against your core values. These are things you cannot trade.

These are not surface things like crooked eyebrows or disorganized teeth.

They are deep things like not being able to stand someone who takes pleasure in the suffering of others or someone who is judgemental and close minded. By knowing these are the things you cant stand, you also realise who you cant stand.

If you go into a relationship you will always feel irritated and mistreated. Because your core values which are who you are, are not harmonised.

2.NON NEGOTIABLES

These are things that actually cause conflicts and even break relationships.
Your opinion on these things is least likely to change over the next years
Both yours and theirs’
These are

Marriage

Kids

Family

Sex

Money

Religion

Marriage
Do you want to get married? how soon?Is the feeling mutual?

Kids
Do you want kids , how many , how soon?
Is he/she thinking the same?

Family
How close are you to you family? Do you like hanging around them too much?
If you are and your patner isn’t one of you will simply need to give in.

Are ready to be the one? Is he/she ready?

Sex
What is your opinion and outlook on sex.
Some want to wait , some do not.

Where do you stand?Are you willing to compromise?

Money
Are you frugal(prefer to save as much money as you can) or generous?( a giver and spender)
If you are all opposites, you may work out but there will be issues and you should all be aware why such issues are arising.

Religion
If your religion is something that is a big part of who you are , then dating/ marrying someone outside your denomination might be as an issue.
Is it a challenge you are willing to face? Are you willing to compromise?

This is a question you should ask yourself for all these things.

If you are willing to compromise , its a green light. If you both aren’t , it is going to be an issue that will arise from time to time.

3.DESIRABLES
These are the whats .

So now you know how we rush to mention the least important things.

They are things like.

I want her to have a big Nyach

I want him to have a car

I want him to be tall

At the core of things like i want her to be independent. Is really I want a woman with whom i can share and not just support.
Its the same when ladies say they want a man with a car. They need a man who is self sufficient.

So it is not the car that they want , it is what brings the car to him & that is ambition and hardwork.

And for the case of Nyach.

Well,That is madness.

That is it twenties . Get to the core of yourselves and have a great time finding & keeping the love of your life.

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Relatinship tips: 5 Things Everyone Needs in A Partner

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Why do most relationships feel like fire at first and become so cold and blunt eventually?

They say soup tastes better when served hot, so should relationships end when the fire dies? And what can you do to reignite the fire?

Most of people agree that they lose interest in their crushes as soon as they get together. Many lack the drive to go on with a relationship and eventually end in a break up. 

Here is a post cracking the mystery of this

Love is just a feeling mediated by chemicals released into the blood system to make your body go haywire. When a relationship is new, the levels of such chemical are literally touching the sky.

The same chemicals are released when you see your crush and also responsible for blushing.

Love is just like a reaction between a matchstick and the match. Now, to keep the candle burning

There are 5 things to check before getting deciding to be with someone

Find someone with these things and you will have the world at your feet, stars shining for you, birds singing for you, butterflies in the stomach and all of the myths about love stuffs will be a reality to you.

  1. You must be sexually attracted to them

If you can’t find your partner sexually attractive you will not be able to build a trustful relationship. The heat must be there.

How do you know if you have this: you get turned on by them with relative ease. You must think in any way that part of their physical aspect is attractive to you. It could be height/skin tone/dressing codes/eyes/lips/hair. A wise man once said “genitals don’t lie”.

Alert: if this is missing, you become lovers friends.

  1. Friendship compatibility (personality compatibility)

You need someone who won’t find you weird around them. You need someone you can easily talk /laugh with/joke/flirt , someone you enjoy their company.

How do you know if you have this: you don’t use a lot of energy to say hi! Things come automatically or with relative ease.

Alert: if this is missing you will always find one annoying.

  1. You must have things in common.

You must have non contrasting opinions on sensitive issues like religion/politics/sexuality and stuffs like that.

Also Read:>> HOW TO SPOT YOUR TYPE INSTANTLY

You need someone you agree in many things than you disagree. These will bind you together more than anything. Being fans of the same football team or having same taste in music is more romantic than anything because they connect you physically and emotionally to a way another level than romance and sex.

  1. They must be your intellectual equal

This doesn’t mean if you are a top ten student you should date a top ten student, No. Intelligence can be defined from many different angles. It could be interpersonal skills or creativity. It doesn’t have to be the same kind of intelligence. You need someone who can challenge you and push you to grow into a better version of yourself.

How do you know if this is missing: if you lack intellectual stimulation, then you will feel bored and unchallenged. You might even gradually lose respect for them because you don’t feel like you are with your equal.

  1. Willingness to commit

This is the most sensitive and needs to be understood clearly. It is a common knowledge that most men/boys are afraid to commit as compared to the opposite side. So when establishing any relationship whether it’s casual or a serious one, you need to make it very clear earlier to avoid being seen clingy and emotionally threaten your partner.

How do you know if you are too clingy: you text constantly/you get nervous when there is no answer/you follow him or her around/you stalk/you don’t trust him or her/you are moving too fast.

So if you are a commitment person, get a person who is ready to commit. Otherwise you will get emotionally tortured.

Can You Make It Work If You Don’t Have Any Three Of These Traits?

Of course. You can make almost any relationship work. It’s a matter of whether or not you want to and what your core values are.

If sex isn’t a huge part of your life, you don’t have to agree with the first point.

The important thing is to connect. So, if you find your own way of connecting and find passion in it, that’s unique and way more romantic.

I hope that this article gets you somewhere in your love life.

Dedicated to your success,

Twentiesco

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LAST MINUTE VALENTINE GIFT IDEAS THAT DON’T LOOK DESPERATE

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Merhaba,
If you are anything like me and spend months thinking of the perfect gift for your people and sometimes it hits you that you have very few hours left, here are gift ideas for this years Valentines day both last minute and early.
0.YOU
Seriously what’s better than being present. Like actually present?

Check our fun date ideas

1.Cooking utensils.
If you know someone with a cooking hobby .. Then you should definitely consider gifting them with some kitchen appliances and supplies.
Now i know every hobbist..has something they want to enjoy more..
Perhaps its more jars of spices
New sports shoes
Sketching pencils
Fabric
A music player
Sport gloves
A computer package subscription
And so on

2. Workout outfits and equipment.

I know people who are workout aholics and would enjoy nothing more than a new equipment.
Or some who are just getting into it and would love some equipments.
We love this lon

g resistance bands from Boosta on Instagram.

3.Home repair tools.

One of the hardest people to find gifts for are men

Instead of gifting them with ties and watches every year . Consider getting them some equipment to assist them in manly duties like fixing stuff.. Because there is always something to be fixed around the house.

And a bottle of wine or shampagne please 🙂
5.Manicure and Pedicure kit.
If you do your own manicure and pedicure.. You probably know that excitement of getting a new nail polish . If you didn’t, now you do.
Thank us later. Get your mom/girlfriend/sister/any female some nail polish and nail care thangs.
We love Lavy Nail polish. And if they don’t do theirown manicure and pedicure then we suggest Lavy mobile clinic.
6. Self care Kit.
Because self care is lit. Some body scrub, body brush, cleanser, lotion and cologne.

Other suggestions

7.Jewelery.
8.Cooked food
Recipes from Olivia

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Cooking classes and food services

9.Decorations
10.Potted plants
11.A Book(s)
12. An item of their craft or yours.
What do you think?
What are other gifts that you can give someone pretty much in the last minute,share your thoughts in the comments and we’d love to hear what you have in mind

Here are some guides on what to do for valentines day

Fun Date ideas

Types of love languages

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