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WHY YOUR TWENTIES ARE THE HARDEST DECADE OF YOUR LIFE

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So let’s talk about being in your twenties. Shall we?

People say high school is hard, and it is, but being in your twenties, well, that is a whole new ball game….when you don’t even play sports.

I read a funny meme that was something like, “Being an adult is easy, it’s like riding a bike, except the bike is on fire, the ground is on fire and everything is on fire because you’re in hell.”

Funny, but mostly because there is a part of it that rings true.

You’re twenties can be pretty awful.

When you are in your twenties there is absolutely no specific direction you are pointed in (or everyone is pointing every which way!) and there is probably the biggest scalable differences in people’s life who are of similar ages.

Let me explain:

You have twenty somethings that still live with their parents and have never kept a job, twenty somethings who are just starting college, twenty somethings who are newly married or on their 2nd or 3rd child. You have those making their way up in their career, or those that are still traveling and seeing the world. There are some still going to parties and getting drunk every weekend, and others off starting their own businesses.

Literally there is a twenty something in practically every stage of life.

So we are in the middle of our own little journey looking around at everyone else like, “Well what do I do now?”

Should you be getting married to your boyfriend now that you’re 25? Or you’re only 21 so should you NOT be getting married? Should you be farther along in your career now that you are halfway through your twenties? You’re almost 27, should you have a kid by now? Or should you wait till you are in your thirties altogether before settling down?

The best part about all of this confusion? (Sarcasm assumed.) Everyone wants to answer that question for you!

On one had there are those that will tell you that your twenties are for just figuring things out, for “experimenting” and “finding yourself” (what does that actually mean!?). Then you have those that are looking down on you because you haven’t conquered all these career goals they had in mind for you. Or the ones that tell you, “You need to experience the world!” and you are just trying to pay for Tuesday’s dinner.

So how (the heck!) do you know where YOU should be?

What is the right answer!?!?

Short answer, there isn’t one. Long answer: continue reading.

So why write about this topic? Why do a post on how your twenties are hard? For us all to nod our heads in agreement and then just try to get through them? Not so much.

It’s because I’m tired too.

I know you are looking at “her” and thinking her life is perfect. It’s not. I know that you think “they” have a perfect job or career that “they” love. They don’t. I know you wish you were better, smarter, faster, and had some long list of accomplishments that everyone was jealous of. Is that improper to say? Well let’s say it.

Let’s all admit that we are looking around at everyone else and wanting that life. We are not sure where we stand or if we are even on the right stage but they look like they areso we’re jealous. We wish we could be like them. I wish it. You wish it. Let’s own it. Call it out and move past it.

Because I actually used to sit wishing it for hours a day.

Yes.

Hours a day.

But here is the thing that you have hopefully learned way before your twenties. Wishing doesn’t work. Birthday candles are fun and sparkly but they don’t “poof” you into the life of your dreams.

In actuality the life of your dreams comes in slowly, with a lot of hard lessons and hard work,  work that no one will notice, no one will care about, and if they do notice it, they will probably tell you it’s futile. They’ll tell you how you can’t have your dream life and disguise it as looking out for you and your future.

They will be wrong.

The work is not glamourous. You don’t dream about the work, you dream about the results. But you have to realize that one has to come first.

It will come in the form of late nights staying in instead of going out to write that novel and your friends won’t understand, or spending all your free time practicing an instrument for a career they don’t think you could have. It will be constantly filtering questions about where you are working and letting them think you are a bum with no job or a crap job, rather than explaining you’re working your butt off everyday to make a business from a blog.

It will be those things that no one sees. Those things that not a lot of people will understand.

Those things will make your twenties great. Those things that build you into the person you’ll be in your thirties, into the family you’ll raise in your forties, the retirement you’ll have in your sixties, the life you’ll lead every day after, and the legacy you’ll leave behind.

Your twenties were made for you to be great.

For you to chase audacious dreams with common sense but a lot more of reckless abandon.

If I could tell you two things right now it would be to stop looking at other people’s lives, and to stop listening to their advice about your own.

You are so much greater than you think you are.

Your twenties are the hardest decade of your life, because you haven’t figured that out yet.

So go, “do you” in the most real sense of the culture cliché.

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HOLIDAY ACTIVITIES FOR ALL UNIVERSITY STUDENTS

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Holiday time ,

A time we have been looking forward to since school started! Blink and share this post if you can relate!

Fun holiday activities

I am a big pro-balance , i believe in late nights, early mornings and coffee but i also believe it is essential to lay back in the Bahamas and have someone bring you a Cool Mojito . So what do you do when you have a month or two of rest. Read On.
1.Rest
A bit Clichè right? But how many of us actually rest at least half of the time during the holiday?

While it is sometimes inevitable to reply that email, Attend that client, making time to take care of you, catch up on your favourite tv show or just sitting and breathing helps clear your brain and make you even more productive.

2. Learn a skill.

What a time to be Alive! Your next skill is literaly a few taps away. This skill can be a hobby you have been looking to get better at like sewing, singing, piano , cooking or something intergral in your career like history taking for new clinical rotation students or something you have wanted to do on the side( you have been talking about how you do not have time, and now Its here! ).

One of the founders of Afyatoon , an animation start-up that provides health education actually learnt how to animate during his summer holiday.

There are some things that are not taught in school and you are probably struggling with such as speaking in public , budgeting , dressing well, healthy living & more. Take time to train yourself on that.

3. Work on your side hustle
Balancing between studies and work is a challenge. Sometimes they are all demanding our time and energy. The holiday time therefore is a great time to focus on this thing , give it a mega push and this push will even save you the hustle when school starts.

 

4. Learn, explore and grow.
It is really eye-opening to learn a new thing or get to understand a certain topic . This can be a great time to do that. There is vast majority of knowledge and information on blogs, social media and in the actual world for you to learn .

Be curious, google , check out some you tube videos . But most of Enjoy your holiday .

 

What are you doing this holiday?

 

Twentiesco consultation doors are open! Book your consulation today and lets walk  this adulthood  journey together.

 

 

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HOW TO APPLY FOR OPPORTUNITIES AND ACTUALLY GET THEM

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If you are one amazing twenti who seeks out opportunities to learn or seek support for something you do , at some point you have to prove your worthiness of what you are applying or contesting for.

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4 Tips for successfull Business In Agriculture For Beginners..

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agribussiness sucess tips

I have always heard national leaders claim that Agriculture is the backbone of Tanzania. Infact I wrote a couple of essay discussing this same a few year back in secondary school.
However, I have seen more backs deformed, callous on their hands and accidents where you cultivated your leg instead of the land than I have seen these same people afford to treat any of these conditions.
I have also been hearing that farmers in the west are rich and unbothered.
But then do you think such farmers cultivate acres of land ,wait for rain (fingers crossed ) , uproot weeds, harvest and sell to the next buyer that can pay them something close to half their children’s school fees?
Agriculture is a pretty lucrative sector. And if you aim in these areas , you might make a fortune.

1.Quality
There is a big market we are not accessing in the western countries because of standard barriers. A large number of crops we produce are of a good enough quality. But what about the end products? Can they cross the Jk.Nyerere airport without causing a security shut down? Another issue that hinders these products is packaging. Poor packaging makes a product look cheap and not reliable.

2.Processing and Storage
Why do we pay these timewasters so much.
Because they process raw products. Turning sisal to .. and selling finished products has higher profit . . Plus how do you expect to make much of a profit when everyone is trying to sell the same thing before it rots. These products need to be stored well too so that their value stays and can be sold even after the season is over.

Also Read: PACKAGING IS A PART OF BRANDING.

FAST MONEY IDEAS AND NOT TOO FAST

3.WHAT WOULD YOU FIND IN DOHA THAT IS IN KHARTOUM. ?
What is trending?
If you want to have a large market, go for products that are widely used in different places and some trending crops. Think Chia seeds, strawberries , pepper etc.

You can also contact restaurants for tenders so you have a market right away.
Let me let you in on a little secret a farmer told me.You do not need acres to farm. A green house is a perfect way to produce extremely quality crops that could sell in Antarctica for a million dollars . There is also an option of renting a farm .
That’s it fellaz ,As this weather moves you to cultivate other people, may you consider trying out crops. This is because agribusiness is worth investing in although it has not succeed to be as attractive as network marketing.

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