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SLAY A BAD MOOD AND BE MORE WITH THESE TIPS

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We all want to feel happy and experience a broad smile on his or her face. The only thing people want is someone to cheer them up so they put a smile on their face.Unfortunately  we forget cheering up ourselves is our very own task.

So here are nine simple tips to experience more joy in life

Prepared by Bhoke

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Call a friend

The best  predictor that we have of a person’s happiness is the breadth and the depth of their relationships. Just make sure you are calling a friend who genuinely wants to catch up with and not you feel like you should call.  “We tend to be a lot happier when we are thinking about other people”, says Carter.

Say thank you

Research shows that even just thinking about something you are thankful for can put you in a more joyful mindset. But expressing that feeling is even better. Also don’t forget to tell someone else what quality specifically you appreciate about them. For example you may say to your colleague “Thank you for taking the trash out. You know how much I hate that job, and it shows what a thoughtful person you are.”

Head outside

Being in nature or even just looking at a picture of it for some reason you can’t get outdoors­­­­­­­­­­­­­­­­­­­­­­­__can help you feel less stressed. Going for a walk in a green space or near water get your heart pumping and deepen your breathing, both of which can help put you in a more positive mindset.

Take a deep breath

Speaking of breathing is a favorite trick to activate the vagus nerve which can create feelings of well being. The easiest way to do that? Inhale for four seconds, pause for one second, then exhale, really deeply for five seconds. Repeat the process 10 times.

Eat more healthy fats (and avoid bad ones)

Tran’s fats can cause feelings of aggression and agitation, but Omega-3 can create feelings of calm and even help prevent some forms of depression. Eat foods such as fish, walnuts, and chia seeds.

Change your outlook on stress

Ever have one of those days where there are a million things on your to-do list and you feel like there’s no way you can possibly get them all done? One of the quickest ways to reverse that overwhelmed feeling is to view stress in opposite ways.

Break a sweat

When you are really angry and stressed, you have more adrenaline in your system. To clear it out and starting to feel more Zen is to do something to get your heart rate up, like going for a run.

Put in your headphones

Even if you listen to music to lift your spirit already, it’s nice to know that research shows it can definitely help boost your mood.

 

Think beyond just pleasure

Many people equate happiness with pleasure. But if you view joy for what it really is, a wider spectrum of positive emotions, you will ultimately feel more satisfied. Pleasure; whether you get it from a new pair of shoes or a promotion at work, activate the reward center in the brain, which leaves you craving more. But it’s also fleeting. Other feelings like contentedness, inspiration, and awe also make you feel good in a way that doesn’t set you up a crash afterward.

What is it that you do experience more joy in your life.

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  1. Vicky

    June 7, 2017 at 9:57 pm

    Nyc work herie n bhoke,, keep the good job

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LOSING MY REPUTATION TO AN ADDICTION;LESSONS IN MY TWENTIES

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You know the saying it takes twenty years to build a reputation and five minutes to destroy it, the sad truth about this is it is TRUE.
What if I told you am a doctor well-loved by my patients, have saved lives several times. The first image you will have of me is a well-rounded and respectable man. Well that was me a few years ago. I was the man. I did everything right, straight As, focused, well-mannered. Everyone who knew me wanted to carry me around like a trophy. Currently, I am a recovering alcoholic, I have practically no friends, colleagues barely answer my calls, but it wasn’t always like that, a decade ago.

alcohol addiction in my twenties
One of the most important lessons you will learn in your twenties is we all have our demons. Some it’s an ex who wronged us, others its sex, mine well was alcohol and an ex of course. For most of us, our proper relationships begin at our late teenage years and twenties.

broken relationship depression

I met a lady a few years back and unlike the fairy tales,It did not last. Alcohol was my demon and I turned to it as a coping mechanism. I drank so much when my relationship crumbled, I lost a lot of friends and let family members down.
In one year my reputation changed from a hardworking guy to an alcoholic failure. The thing is bad reputations stick more than good ones, I haven’t touched a drink in more than two years, but I still get labeled as such.

Am turned 30 this year, I feel like my twenties have flown by so fast and, yet I have changed and grown a lot. I have had my share of bad days, weeks and months and am I yet to have more. I am aware that I need to develop my coping skills and speak or deal with what bothers me instead of finding unhealthy and destructive coping mechanisms.

So, here’s my take from it all.
Mistakes are a significant part of our twenties and a better off made NOW. There are less people that might be affected by you deciding to use all your money betting on Croatia for a good number of us.

In your twenties learn to reach out to a falling friend. So many times, we see friends failing and we never say a word. Speaking to our circle of support in times of highs and obviously takes a big load of our minds and theirs too.

friendship in alcohol addiction
Success might take twenty years to achieve, don’t feel outdone. Social media is like a highlight reel of or lives. We are not seeing a great deal of the backstage to which we compare ours with.

Another thing is your reputation will NEVER recover, but its alright. People will give you a second chance, they will support you, but will remind you of your faults,  Accept your faults learn what happened has happened.

So, what should you do? Simple, wear your flaws and do not be ashamed of your struggles. Do not try to convince people your flaws aren’t a part of you. Life gets easier when you are open, it might seem tough, but you will cope.

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HOW TO APPLY FOR OPPORTUNITIES AND ACTUALLY GET THEM

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If you are one amazing twenti who seeks out opportunities to learn or seek support for something you do , at some point you have to prove your worthiness of what you are applying or contesting for.

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HOW TO SPOT YOUR TYPE INSTANTLY

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how to know your type love

What kind of a patner do you want?

We often respond to this question by saying,

kind, self motivated , good looking , supportive and more.

When we however meet such people , we may not want them for us.

Sometimes you come to learn this so much later in a relationship.

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This is because the things we mention are usually whats not whos.

They are what the patner is . Not who the patner is.

It is the whos that keep relationships not whats.

And to know who you want , you first should know who you are.

So how do yo know from the begining that this person is your type?
Here are three musts to check

1. CORE ESSENTIALS [things , you cannot tolerate . AT ALL.]
These things instantly tell you who is not for you.

Core essential are red flags that show you that he is against your core values. These are things you cannot trade.

These are not surface things like crooked eyebrows or disorganized teeth.

They are deep things like not being able to stand someone who takes pleasure in the suffering of others or someone who is judgemental and close minded. By knowing these are the things you cant stand, you also realise who you cant stand.

If you go into a relationship you will always feel irritated and mistreated. Because your core values which are who you are, are not harmonised.

2.NON NEGOTIABLES

These are things that actually cause conflicts and even break relationships.
Your opinion on these things is least likely to change over the next years
Both yours and theirs’
These are

Marriage

Kids

Family

Sex

Money

Religion

Marriage
Do you want to get married? how soon?Is the feeling mutual?

Kids
Do you want kids , how many , how soon?
Is he/she thinking the same?

Family
How close are you to you family? Do you like hanging around them too much?
If you are and your patner isn’t one of you will simply need to give in.

Are ready to be the one? Is he/she ready?

Sex
What is your opinion and outlook on sex.
Some want to wait , some do not.

Where do you stand?Are you willing to compromise?

Money
Are you frugal(prefer to save as much money as you can) or generous?( a giver and spender)
If you are all opposites, you may work out but there will be issues and you should all be aware why such issues are arising.

Religion
If your religion is something that is a big part of who you are , then dating/ marrying someone outside your denomination might be as an issue.
Is it a challenge you are willing to face? Are you willing to compromise?

This is a question you should ask yourself for all these things.

If you are willing to compromise , its a green light. If you both aren’t , it is going to be an issue that will arise from time to time.

3.DESIRABLES
These are the whats .

So now you know how we rush to mention the least important things.

They are things like.

I want her to have a big Nyach

I want him to have a car

I want him to be tall

At the core of things like i want her to be independent. Is really I want a woman with whom i can share and not just support.
Its the same when ladies say they want a man with a car. They need a man who is self sufficient.

So it is not the car that they want , it is what brings the car to him & that is ambition and hardwork.

And for the case of Nyach.

Well,That is madness.

That is it twenties . Get to the core of yourselves and have a great time finding & keeping the love of your life.

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